#4 – No stalking.
For some reason, when we are going through a break-up, we can’t resist the temptation to stalk our guy on social media. The temptation to see what he is up to, who he is hanging out with, who he might be seeing is just too much to resist.
When you do it, does it make you feel better? I didn’t think so.
One of the most important parts of getting over feeling depressed after a breakup is to remove yourself completely from anything to do with your ex. Block him on your phone. Disconnect from him on Facebook, Instagram, etc. Don’t talk to your friends about what he is doing.
Instead, pretend like he just doesn’t exist. Pretend that he is a guy you used to know who has disappeared off the face of the earth. The less you think and know about your ex, the easier it will be for you to get over him.
#5 – Don’t give up.
I know. I know. The prospect of getting back into another relationship is the last thing that you want to do. To give of yourself to someone else when you still have love for another person.
And that is fair. But it’s also important that you don’t stop living your life. You only have one life and it’s short.
So, if someone from work invites you out for a drink, do it! Go to the movies with friends. If you are invited to a party, go to it. Put yourself back out in the world and into the path of love. You will meet new people, have new experiences and maybe find yourself another person to call your own.
If you stay home, on the couch, watching The Bachelor, eating ice cream you might feel safe and less vulnerable, but you will also stay depressed because you have stopped living your life and you just won’t feel good about yourself.
Put yourself out there. Live your life. You will be glad you did.
Feeling depressed after a breakup is a horrible feeling.
What we want more than anything is to move on and stop the pain NOW.
Unfortunately, it most often isn’t possible because grief, and the depression that accompanies it, is usually the first part of the healing process. Luckily, grief is only the first step and that there is hope for your future.
So, embrace your grief, feel it and release it. Take care of yourself, do things that make you happy, stay off social media and get yourself out there.
When you are ready, sooner than later I hope, you can let go of your love and reach out for a new one – yourself.
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