5. Join groups
This ties back to the intention of filling your life with play. If all of the things that you tend to fill your time with are overly isolating, then it will be good for you to make a concerted effort to join a few social groups.
Book clubs, sports clubs, cooking classes, fan clubs… the list of options is endless.
Go to your local community center, bulletin boards, or MeetUp.com and find a few things that appeal to you, and then put them on your calendar and make them non-negotiable. Remember, your health and longevity depend on it.
6. Start a group
If you have been in research mode for weeks and aren’t finding anything that appeals to you, then it might be a time that you start your own group.
Start your own book club or special interest group. Start your own ultimate frisbee team. Start your own weekly men’s/women’s group.
Start it. Let people know about it (again, through your local community center, nearby bulletin boards, or MeetUp.com), and fill a room with the kind of people that you would want to meet, support, and befriend.
Presently in my life, I’m a part of a weekly men’s group, a weekly book club, a weekly dance class, and a weekly dinner gathering. While I personally didn’t start any of these, I attend these things on a weekly basis because people who became good friends of mine did take the initiative to start them.
You just have to start. That’s all it takes.
7. Host group gatherings with your new friends
Between your life being jam-packed with play and your various groups that you’re a member of, you’ll start to have more friends than you know what to do with.
If managing 10-20 good friends is too much for you to juggle, then another option is to start hosting dinner parties (or other group gatherings) with your newly robust social circle.
Your friends will benefit from meeting each other, and you will get the added bonus of being seen as the connector who brings your likeminded friends more value in their lives.
So to summarize…
– fill your life with play, and join or host a few groups
– when you meet people you like, be interested in them, be vulnerable with them, and then tell them that you want to be their friend directly
– keep the momentum going by continuing to invest in your friendships, extending yourself to them regularly, and hosting group activities for your tribe to meet and connect with each other
You can make friends as an adult easier than you might have once thought. It will simply require courage and effort.
I wish you the best of luck in this endeavor.
Dedicated to your success,
Written by Jordan Gray
Originally appeared on Jordan Gray Consulting