1. Get out there
Yes, you have responsibilities. Welcome to adulthood. But that doesn’t mean you will put yourself in the backseat and then forget all about it. Neglecting yourself, letting go of dreams, avoiding having fun and not enjoying life is definitely not the way to make friends. Although Netflix does sound perfect at the end of a tiring day, what you need to do is go out there and do things that you love. Pursue your passions and meet new people who are already doing what you love. You need to actively focus on building and enjoying your personal life first. Look at it this way, why would anyone want to be your friend if you are not an interesting person? So go out there and fun. Be your own best friend first and foremost. Happiness always begins with loving yourself.
“A man practices the art of adventure when he breaks the chain of routine and renews his life through reading new books, traveling to new places, making new friends, taking up new hobbies and adopting new viewpoints.” – Wilfred Peterson
2. Reconnect with old friends
Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, I am pretty sure you had some friends back in school and college. Or they may be an ex-colleague or a neighbour from your hometown. Start by getting in touch with your old friends either through social media, emails or text. Or you might even call them up and ask to meet them. This is a lot easier and less scary than meeting new people. They are people you know. People you are comfortable with. People you already have a history with. Even though you haven’t been in touch for the last few years, you will immediately feel that connection and friendship the moment you start talking with your old pals.
3. Have an open mindset
Making new friends as an adult requires to develop the right mindset. If you start worrying about getting rejected or neglected by the people you approach or if you think that you are not “cool” enough to be their friend, then you will never be able to make any friends. You need to be open and approach the situation like you did as a kid. Don’t think that you will never be able to make any friends. What you think will eventually become your reality. Do not worry or overthink. Take it easy and keep things natural. Moreover, you also need to realize that your new friend doesn’t have to be the same gender as you. Have an open mindset and just go with the flow.
5. Learn to say YES
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” – C.S. Lewis
To make friends you need to be open to new opportunities. You have to agree to get out there and meet people. You have to agree to be active and not just be a couch potato. So the next time someone asks you to hang out or invites you to an event, say yes! Ofcourse, you shouldn’t compel yourself to spend time with people you don’t like or do things you hate. But don’t lock yourself in your room and hide yourself from people. The more you deny to attend parties, the more people will think that you don’t like them and soon they will stop asking you. This is the reason why you get rejected. So get yourself out of your self-imposed prison and start saying yes!
Another excellent way to meet like-minded people and make friends is by starting to volunteer in something that you feel passionate about. Granted you won’t like each and every person you meet nor will you become best friends with every person in the group. But you will certainly meet a lot of new people who are as passionate as you. You will make some interesting conversations and experience what it feels like to be a part of a group driven by a common cause. The best way is to volunteer for a movement or a charity. Not only you will end up making some good friends, you will also feel happy and satisfied about giving back to the community.