Make sure that when you are in a relationship you have lots of things in your life outside of your relationship. Make sure you have a job, or a hobby, that you love. Make sure that you have friends who you can play with. Make sure that you spend time by yourself so that you are comfortable being alone.
If you rely completely on your partner for your happiness, it might be time to say goodbye. Going away and then coming together to share experiences is a key part of maintaining a healthy relationship and if you can’t, or won’t, do that then your relationship might be over.
#5 – He is giving you mixed messages.
Is your man alternating hot and cold? Does some days he seem like his loving self and then others he is crabby and distant and no fun to be with?
Unless your man has bi-polar disorder, a man who is playing up and down with his woman is a man no longer interested.
If a man wants something, particularly a woman, he will move heaven and earth to get it. If your man only wants you some days and not others then he isn’t making any effort at all to keep you.
So, unless your man is always hot for you, it’s time to say goodbye.
#6 – He isn’t giving you the love you want.
The number one thing we seek in a relationship is love. Unfortunately, for many women, we are willing to settle for companionship and give up on the love we want because our men just aren’t capable of giving us what we desire.
Has your man stopped asking how you are doing? Has he stopped asking you out on dates or bringing home the groceries or including you in activities with his friends? Does he no longer listen when you talk or seem to care at all about what you think?
A man like this is a man who has nothing left to give to the woman he used to love.
Unfortunately, for many women, when they are trying to save a relationship that was once so promising, they become so obsessed with saving it that they don’t notice how little of it still exists. They will talk more to fill in the silences left by the absence of questions. They will invite themselves along on outings they weren’t invited to. They will plan things that the two of them can do together. As a result, women don’t notice that their man has completely checked out.
So, take a moment and think about your relationship. What has your man done for you lately? If the list is short then it’s time to say goodbye.
#7 – History repeats itself.
Are you and your guy stuck in a cycle of good and bad, up and down, highs and lows? Are there days when things feel almost like they used to and then days when things are so bad that you want to cry?
Does your man tell you that he needs space and disappear only to reappear a few weeks later telling you how much he misses you?
If you find yourself in these kinds of patterns, where things are never constantly good but rather a roller coaster of emotions that is sucking you dry, then it’s time to say goodbye. Time to let go of what was and move forward to what could be.
I am guessing that you are reading this article because you suspect, deep down, that the relationship you are in isn’t the one for you. But it’s hard to admit this and even harder to say goodbye.
It is essential, for your mental health and the health of your future love life, that you pay hard attention to whether it’s time to say goodbye to a relationship that isn’t working.