#4 – Can you let go of the anger?
Your partner has fooled around on you and of course you are ANGRY. Who wouldn’t be? But can you let go of it and move on?
If you are holding onto anger, anger at yourself for your naiveté, anger at your partner for their wandering hands, then working on surviving infidelity without counseling will be impossible. Your anger will interfere with your communication, your anger will interfere with wanting to make things work, your anger will cloud your emotions so that you can’t think clearly.
If you are still angry with your partner, and the situation, take some time to work through that anger and let it go. Once you have been able to let it go then you will be able to start working with your partner to get through the mess.
I know letting go of anger is easier said than done but it is possible!
#5 – Can you forgive?
This final piece is really important – can you forgive your partner?
Forgiveness is a key part of surviving infidelity. Again, you have been betrayed. Do you have the ability to accept and understand the where and why it happened and not hold it over your partner’s head going forward?
It is possible to forgive even if it’s not possible to forget. It might take some time to get there but if you can do so then you have a real chance at saving your relationship and living the rest of your lives together happily.
So, take some time. Do some reading about forgiveness, what it means and how to get there. See if you can forgive your partner and move on.
Surviving infidelity without counseling might seem impossible. But it isn’t.
Every day, many couples come back from the betrayal of infidelity and live happy lives together.
If the other person is out of the picture, if you can still communicate, if you have determination, if you aren’t stuck in anger and can forgive, then you have a good chance of being able to get past this and move on.
Of course, if you try to work on your relationship without counseling and fail, it is still possible to take that next step and get some professional help to get you through it. Therapists and life coaches are trained in helping people move past difficult situations and sometimes expert help is just what you need to take that next step.
Good luck with this next period in your life. You can do it!!
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