Unfortunately, money is one of the most common causes of divorce.
You will undoubtedly argue about money, but this can be dealt with positively. If you find yourselves struggling to talk about finances, get the help of a financial planner.
Always be open about your financial situation, including outstanding debts, loans, income sources, investments or other financial assets or obligations such as alimony, child support or financial support to aging parents.
If you aren’t married yet but intend to tie the knot, do your best to keep your wedding affordable— so you don’t end up behind before you even start the marriage.
Keeping financial secrets, such as spending on credit cards your partner knows nothing about will cause you to feel guilty. WHEN she finds out, you’ll be in a world of hurt and distrust.
4. MAKE THE EFFORT TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT YOUR WIFE.
Put down your phone, turn off the television and spend some time with your wife to see what is happening in her life.
Go for a walk or set aside an hour on a regular basis so you can catch up with each other.
Here are some specific questions to ask to find out more about her that will help you become better husband:
- Do you know her favorite band or what book she is currently reading?
- If you were to take her away on a long weekend, do you know where she would like to go?
- Is there a restaurant she would love to visit?
Find out answers to those questions and more. She will notice and appreciate your attention and interest in her.
5. BE CREATIVE WHEN TELLING HER YOU LOVE HER.
You may assume your wife already knows you love her, but it is good to make it clear often, whether with a love note in her purse or on the seat of her car at the beginning of the day.
If you cannot remember the last time you told your wife that you still find her attractive, then change that immediately.
ONE OF THE PRIMARY REASONS PEOPLE STRAY FROM THEIR WEDDING VOWS IS BOREDOM.
Celebrate your more unusual anniversaries such as the first day you met, the first time you kissed, the date you moved into your first home together and other dates.
A simple rose on her pillow or running her a bath that she can enjoy whilst you make sure the pets and young children leave her alone.
Over time, kissing changes from being a passion for being a peck going to or coming in from work. Reclaim the passion with a 10-second kiss at least once a day.
6. PLAN FUN TIMES.
Date night with your wife does not have to be expensive. A night walk along the beach, playing a round of golf together or having a marathon night of board games can be fun.
If you can, share hobbies like couple’s cooking classes, join a choir and keep fit together. Find shared activities that you both enjoy and make an effort to include that in your schedule.
7. MAKE YOUR PARTNER (AND RELATIONSHIP) YOUR MAIN PRIORITY.
Making your wife a priority means you may have to say no to other things to keep the schedule clear for spending time together.
This may mean no longer watching a particular television program so you can focus on each other.
Keeping your partner and marriage as a clear priority can also shift your perspective when times are difficult, as you can focus on what to be grateful for.
Make it a priority to try to go to bed together at the same time, even if your work, baby or children schedules make this difficult. Right before bed is a great time to change interactions with your wife from negative to positive. Make bed a sacred place where you enjoy each other.
Instead of confrontation, start telling each other jokes. You can talk about where you want your relationship to go and things you share, rather than just passing along boring information about your day.
By initiating positive, intimate conversations, you can be proactive in maintaining strong bonds of marriage and keep your wife thrilled to be married to you.
Are you ready to become a better husband?