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How to Stop Being Controlled by Shame and Judgement

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Looking from Another Perspective

Those who faced the biggest adversities in life, especially after facing judgements and discriminations, and came out on top, are the ones who have the most incredible life stories to share.

Yes, their journey may have been painful, it may have been overcoming one thing after another, but it also created exponential growth. Being given an easy ride in life doesn’t give much in the way of lessons.

Another thing I have said many times over the years is that the easy path never turns out to be easy. The person who has come from an underprivileged background and clambered their way to the top, overcoming adversity and disapproval, will have a far more interesting and rewarding life than the one born with a silver spoon and having everything handed to them on a plate.

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Ironically, the ‘powers that be’ have also dictated to us what success is. People are judged on levels of achievement by perceived wealth, house size, car, and wardrobe. But true success is not needing ‘stuff’ to know your worth.

Success should be measured by levels of contentment and hurdles faced and overcome. We earn our rewards through putting the work in, and we gain understanding through life experience and challenges faced.

Humans don’t grow and gain understanding from having it easy. I’m not saying that emotional pain should be a goal to strive towards. But having emotional discomforts and hardship can give us motivation and momentum to push ourselves up, out, and beyond.

However, if we continue to follow the herd because it is easy and the best way to avoid shame and judegments, we are simply locking down our unique spark and following a road that leads to unfulfillment.

Believe in yourself and you will be unstoppable.

Surrender Judgements

If we want to live a life away from judgements, it helps to own self-acceptance. Know your worth. Accept that the past may have caused emotional pain for the reason it offered obstacles to overcome.

Know that it is ok to be different. Know that if you have suffered and struggled and strived to live authentically you are doing something right.

We may not know the shape of things to come or where our future will lead, but as I said in my last post, it is time to surrender our fears, beliefs, and old ways of being. Let go of the fear of judgement and shame and instead focus on the light within.

It is time to create the new. Happy Summer Solstice. Let’s see where the eclipse and astrological alignments take us next.

Until next time.
©Diane Kathrine

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Diane Kathrine

Diane lives in Manchester, UK. She spent the past twenty years researching everything from human anatomy to the law of attraction. She is a qualified colour and crystal therapist, massage therapist, reflexologist, aromatherapist, healing practitioner, yoga and meditation teacher, and has done in-depth research into diet and nutrition and how it affects Sensitive people. In 2011 Diane wrote ‘30 Traits of an Empath’. The article has been read and shared millions of times and was just the start of her journey to assist and help re-balance the Empaths of the world.View Author posts