3.) In the case that the narcissist abuser is someone very close to you, part of your family, for instance, ignoring them might get a bit more problematic. They’d make other family members believe that you are doing them some wrong.
As can be expected, they’d be great at painting themselves as the martyr whereas you’d be the insensitive person who is not agreeing to their well-meaning actions. And the worst thing is that these people would be fooled by them. And so, instead of even trying to learn your side of the story, they’d start admonishing you on your alleged bad behavior. This could quickly turn into an intervention which would have you facing off your abuser and his/her flying monkeys, meaning well and what not. In such a situation, do not lash out. It will only convince them that whatever your abuser was telling them was true. Again, your best bet is to act rational, logical and calm. Let them finish speaking, cross-question them, point out the obvious flaws in their statement, and walk out of that situation with your head held high.
Losing your life and loved ones to a narcissist can be very hard. But sometimes all you can do is save yourself, so your focus should be on that.
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