Most of the reasons why you think like this is as a consequence of our manipulative behaviour, which further goes to underline that it is not your fault. Even your desire to see the good in people is not your fault either. That is who you are. We know that and we exploit it. It is our fault again but of course in the midst of the battle that we engage in with you, we will never admit that anything is our fault. That will never do.
Thus, your view of us is obscured and because of this you will always issue excuses to explain away our behaviour, our words and our actions. You make these excuses time and time again, to others and to yourselves.
You believe these excuses because this is how you think and you have been led towards this train of thought by the schooling you have received at our manipulative hands and mouths.
You also utilise these excuses to continue to convince yourself that the unsavoury elements of our behaviour are just an aberration, on occasional blip in respect of an otherwise magnificent personality.
Your charity is amazing and naturally most welcome for through this blinkered approach you divest us of responsibility for the things we do, something which aligns with one of our many stated aims. You prevent yourself from examining further the reality of what has now ensnared you and the repeated application of these excuses keeps you in situ.
We want you to utilize these excuses. We want to hear them. We want them said to us and to others.
Your excuses frustrate and alienate those who are against us, your excuses support out manufactured façade and most of all they ensure you deny to yourself that which is directly before you.
Here are twenty-five of those such excuses created by emotional thinking
You will have said them and probably more than once. Understand that each time you utter one you have issued a further death knell for your prospects of escaping us.
1. He is just tired; it makes him snap.
2. He doesn’t mean it, not really.
3. You don’t have to pretend with me, I just want you to be yourself.
4. He has a lot on his mind at the moment.
5. Work is particularly stressful for him.
6. He sometimes has a bit too much to drink, but hey, who hasn’t been there?
7. I think perhaps I am too harsh on him at times, it is my fault really.
8. He is in a bad place but he will come through it.
9. He is a complex person; you don’t understand him like I do
10. It is just the way he is; I have got used to it.
11. I know it seems bad but he does so much that is lovely; this is only a small part of what he is like.
12. Nobody knows him properly, that’s why you think bad of him.
13. He is a popular guy so he is always going to have women hitting on him.
14. He has a temper, I know, but that’s part of what he is and it’s not for us to change him.
15. I need to be more supportive and then he will be better.
16. He’s not well at the moment but I will help him get through it, you will see.
17. You’ve only heard one side of the story; he is not like that at all.
18. Yes, well, his family would say that about him to cover up what they did to him.
19. All he needs is to be loved and I am the one who is going to do that for him.
20. You don’t know what you are saying anymore, it is okay, I do understand.
21. It was a one-off, it won’t happen again.
22. I know it was wrong but this time he has promised that he won’t do it anymore.
23. You don’t understand the way that me and him are together.
24. You are just jealous of what we have. Why can’t you be please for us, for my sake?
25. I’m sorry, it was my fault.
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Written by: HG Tudor
Originally appeared on: Narcsite