How Can I Love Someone Who Abuses Me? Psychology of Toxic Relationships

 October 17, 2018

How Can I Love Someone Who Abuses Me Psychology of Toxic Relationships

My ex was once more the entire focus of my world. I loved him, tried to help him, rescue him, change him. That made him feel good about himself again. For a while.

That’s how the cycle of abuse works. Both needing the other to fulfill insecurities.

Neither of us could do this. The internal well we both had were bottomless buckets. Deep-seated needs are insatiable.

Round and round the abuse cycle went.

Feeling great, feeling down, feeling great again, being abused again. It takes its toll on your self-esteem.

I hit rock bottom. Then the lightbulb went off in my head:

This isn’t love

It’s not. It’s an unhealthy codependency.

I couldn’t agree more with this article. It describes what I went through to a tee.

It’s a dysfunctional dance based on each dancing the correct unhealthy steps.

If you’re in an abusive relationship or have experienced one in the past, I urge you to read it:

A THEORY ON THE ROLE OF LOVE IN ABUSE

Are you in love with someone who hurts you? Trapped in an abusive or dysfunctional cycle? Let me know in the comments below.

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Originally appeared on Unbeatable.com
Written by Vivian Mc Grath
Printed with permission from author

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