5. Do the simple things that they can’t do for themselves.
When someone is experiencing severe depression, simple chores and tasks get thrown out of the window. A clear sign of whether or not I am struggling with an episode is seeing the state of my bedroom. I’m normally a tidy person, but when depression is taking over, I do not have the energy to clean up after myself. It takes all of the effort in the world to get out of bed and anything beyond that is impossible.
If you suspect that someone is struggling, offer to help them with some of the simple things. I’ve had people pick up groceries for me when they knew I wasn’t eating properly or offer to run some of my errands. As much as I resisted, it was a tremendous help.
It didn’t just save me from taking a trip outside, but it showed that they truly did care. Instead of thinking that I was lazy and unmotivated, I knew they saw my struggle and understood the exhaustion and physical toll it took on me.
No mental illness is the same, and there is never just one reason why someone decides to commit suicide. Truthfully, trying to help someone in a dire mental state can be one of the most difficult things to do. There is no guidebook on how to 100% cure depression and sometimes, the person in trouble may not even want the help you’re trying to give.
In cases like these, it is so easy to feel helpless which oftentimes leads to inaction. By understanding that disengagement and isolation are just a few symptoms of mental illness, it is important to not take the rejection you might feel personally.
Considering that the rate of depression and suicide gets higher each year, it is better to act than not act at all. The most important thing to remember is that suicide is preventable and most mental illnesses are treatable. Getting someone the help they need is the most important step in preventing the loss of life. It is also important to not give up when someone you love is hurting. Your presence means more than you will ever know.
Written By Syrah Caparas Originally Appeared In Thought Catalog
When you are looking to help someone who is dealing with depression, always know that being there for them and lending an ear, are sometimes the best things you can do for them. Your presence is important and never giving up on someone dealing with depression can go a long way in helping them feel better.