Healthy Vs Unhealthy Relationships

Healthy Love:


• Allows for individuality

• Brings out partners’ best qualities

• Accepts endings

• Experiences openness to change

• Invites growth in the partner

• Experiences true intimacy

• Finds pleasure in giving & receiving

• Does not try to change partner

• Does not try to control partner

• Accepts limitations of self & partner

• Does not seek unconditional love

• Has individual high self-esteem

• Trusts the memory of the partner

• Expresses feelings spontaneously

• Welcomes affection and closeness

• Believes in equality


Unhealthy Love:


• Feelings consumed in the relationship

• Extremely afraid to let go

• Excessive fear of risk or change

• Little individual growth

• Few truly intimate experiences

• Playing mind games

• Trying to get something by giving

• Trying to change people

• Needing others to feel secure & happy

• Refusing to commit

• Repeatedly experience of negative feelings

• Being afraid of affection & closeness

• Cares with excessive detachment

• Frequent playing of “power games”

• Looking to others for self-worth


“Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but they are always perfect for you.”