Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationships
Healthy Love:
• Allows for individuality
• Accepts endings
• Experiences openness to change
• Invites growth in the partner
• Experiences true intimacy
• Finds pleasure in giving & receiving
• Does not try to change partner
• Does not try to control partner
• Does not seek unconditional love
• Has individual high self-esteem
• Expresses feelings spontaneously
• Welcomes affection & closeness
• Believes inequality
Unhealthy Love:
• Needing others to feel secure & happy
• Extremely afraid to let go
• Excessive fear of risk or change
• Little individual growth
• Few truly intimate experiences
• Trying to get something by giving
• Trying to change people
• Playing mind games
• Cares with excessive detachment
• Looking to others for self-worth
• Feelings consumed in the relationship
• Being afraid of affection & closeness
• Frequent playing of “power games”
“Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but they are always perfect for you.”
