Even though he perpetrated the wrong-he takes no blame. Can I help you? Things haven’t been going so well, ah? That is because you are not in step with me, you are never satisfied, you lag behind complaining all the time about one little thing I do wrong.” “You would be happier if you just trust me more.”
Last but not least is the exaggerated fear of losing control.
The narcissist feels that he controls his human environment mostly by manipulation and mainly by emotional extortion and distortion. This is not far from reality. He suppresses any sign of emotional autonomy.
He feels threatened and belittled by an emotion fostered not by him or by his actions directly or indirectly. Counteracting someone else’s happiness is the narcissist’s way of reminding everyone: I am here, I am omnipotent, you are at my mercy and you will feel happy only when I tell you to.
I thought I had done this when I wrote this, but I guess it was somehow left off. At any rate, almost all of the above is by Dr. Sam Vaknim. Please look at the following URL and listen to Sam talk about how to spot a Narcissist?
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Source: Tales From Ted