3. Friendly competition can be incredibly empowering and motivating, but operating mainly through a competitive lens creates an intense amount of pressure and can lead to feelings of inferiority. Surround yourself with people who seek to collaborate and celebrate the growth associated with wins and setbacks.
4. Practice sharing statements that begin with, “I am proud of my efforts in…” or “It has been really satisfying to…” This framework encourages internal validation and omits the need, desire, or reliance for someone else to praise or affirm you. It is not categorized as bragging and prevents you from degrading someone else in order to feel validated.
5. Avoid comparing yourself to others. Now more than ever we are exposed to snapshots of others’ lives. We can easily fall victim to the “grass is greener” trap. Remove the idea that success is concrete or that it has a clear-cut finish line.
The achievements of others are simply that, the experiences that someone else can claim as part of their journey. They are not threats and should not be viewed as a means to derail you. There is plenty of space for all of us.
6. Start by redefining what the word success means to you. Think of it as a process rather than a defining moment or achievement. Success is a journey, one that requires vulnerability and deliberation. It embodies the desire to keep pushing forward as you validate your efforts.
As humans, we are designed to feel an array of feelings and generate extensive thought patterns. It is these abilities that enable us to discover and embrace what works best for us as we progress through life.
The next time you are asked about your greatest success, try replying with a statement that omits the pressure or concrete measurements often associated with success. Perhaps you answer the question like this, “I’m still on my journey. I am proud of my achievements along the way, but it’s the setbacks that have really encouraged the most growth.”
Enjoy the process and don’t forget to take up space.
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Written By Leah Marone Originally Published On Psychology Today