4. He doesn’t make you a priority.
Be honest. Is your guy your number one priority? Do you put him above your friends, above your dog, above your family, above your work? (well, maybe not above your dog)
Of course, you do. He is the person you love.
But, let me ask you, does he do the same thing? Are you the most important thing in his life and does he regularly show you?
Think hard on this, because it’s very important. It is essential that, for two people to be in a healthy relationship, they make each other a priority. That they make an effort to put their relationship above all things, sometimes even above the kids.
Relationships are very hard and without constant effort, they can fall apart. If your guy puts you after softball, work, friends, golf, etc., then he definitely does not want to be in a relationship.
People who want to be in a relationship act like they want to be in a relationship.
5. He tells you.
Has your guy told you, maybe over and over and over, that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship?
In spite of him saying this, does he keep coming and going, hanging out with you, having sex with you, letting you take care of him? And are you telling yourself that you know that he really does want to be with you, because of his actions and in spite of his words? Well if you do, you are kidding yourself.
If someone tells you something directly, listen to them. If he’s telling you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, there is no amount of love that you can give him that will make him change his mind.
So, if he is being honest and direct with you, believe him! Don’t believe that things will be different with you
I know the last thing in the world that you want to hear is it your guy doesn’t want to relationship but it’s true.
At the beginning of relationships, we have such high hopes and dreams for the future. We believe that we might finally have found our person, and this makes us supremely happy. Letting go of that can be very, very hard.
If he doesn’t make you a priority, if he disappears, if he only wants to stay home and you are feeling insecure, it’s very clear that he no longer wants to be in a relationship. And what I can promise you is that, if he’s already made up his mind, there is nothing that you will be able to do to change it.
I would encourage you to walk away now! You want to find love and happiness so don’t waste even one more minute on someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
I know walking away is scary. You are afraid of the pain and you are afraid of being alone forever. But I can promise you the only way you will be alone forever is if you try to get keep this man.
You can do this I promise.
Written By: Mitzi Bockmann
Originally Published On: Let Your Dreams Begin