It’s important to start listening to what your gut is telling you and follow your intuition.
Gut instincts in relationships
The other thing that can stop you from listening to your gut is when you project onto others. Have a fantasy in your head of what you hope and believe they can be.
When you’re dating, for example. Particularly if you’re dating too soon, dating when lonely or for the wrong reasons.
Instead of being still. Observing their body language and their actions. You project onto them your dream of who they might be. The fantasy life you might have with them.
If this person is narcissistic you listen to all the incredible things they say. They’re masters of telling you what you want to hear. It confirms they’re this fantasy person you’ve been hoping and waiting for.
You ignore those telltale red flags that are telling you otherwise. When you look back you’ll realize you did see them. Your gut feeling would have been warning you. If only you’d heeded it.
People show you who they are early on.
But, if you’re obsessed with projecting onto them something you hope for, you won’t see them for who they really are. Or you’ll deny it as it doesn’t fit with your dream.
You need to detach and observe anyone you’re dating with the first time. Watch not what they say but what they do.
Gut feelings in relationships are a powerful alarm bell. Gut instincts in relationships are key.
If you’re already in a relationship then ask yourself. What is your gut telling you?
Is this relationship good for you? Is it aligned with your core values, beliefs, and goods?
What is your heart telling you? Are your heart and gut feelings at odds with each other? Unaligned?
If not, I’d go with your gut. Always trust your gut.
Stop being in denial.
If you have a big career decision to make. A move to a new country. If you’re choosing a new house to move into.
Making any big decisions. It’s the same. Follow your gut.
What was your instant reaction? Before you started to over analyse and think too much about it? What feels right to you?
What is best for your wellbeing? What is putting your needs first?
Follow your intuition.
My intuition told me my relationship with my ex was bad for me. I wish I had followed my instincts. My life went awry when I stopped listening to my gut feeling.
Now, I’ve learned to trust it again. I let it guide me in every decision I make.
What a difference that makes.
Be still. Follow your intuition. Trust your feelings. Go with your gut.
Listen to what it tells you. Even over and above what your heart says. It knows the truth.
Is what your heart telling you at odds with what your gut says? Do you listen to gut feelings or ignore them? Let me know in the comments below.