No doubt, they are the celebrated star of the class. Never failing to secure a place in the good books of the teacher because they shine. They literally set a milestone for their fellow-students. They would rather teach his/her friends a few intellectual topics than needing help in their homework.
3. He/She abides by parents’ rules
One can find most children being rebellious on being dictated and controlled. But to a golden child, the rules set by their parents is the ultimate rule book for them.
They never question their parents’ decisions. They even end up sacrificing their choices to take up the choices of their parents.
4. He/she has productive hobbies
Video games and television shows are not the golden child’s cup of tea.
They prefer engaging themselves in truly inspiring and fruitful hobbies which provides them the chance to improve themselves.
They find better investments of time in reading books, getting down to involve in sports, playing an instrument, painting or doing creative activities.
5. He/She is sociable
This child is the talker, the attention grabber of the lot. They are the center of attention in a house party. All the other children in their friend circle look up to him/her.
They are often armed with good communication skills and convincing capabilities while themselves being non-credulous. They also have a natural knack for sports and outdoor games.
6. He/she is sensitive to criticism
This child knows that he/she is exclusive. They know that they are not like the rest of the other children. Often times, they hold themselves at a higher pedestal than they could be accredited to.
Being hypersensitive to criticism, they do not like getting slagged for whatever they say or do.
7. He/she seeks perfection
Ever since a very young age, this child has a tendency to be obsessed with perfection. They want their dress all clean and tidy, food just like they want it, their rooms organized and in order and their homework should be free of mistakes.
They frustrate themselves when they fail to live up to their own unrealistic expectations.
Oh boy! The description looks clean. Who doesn’t want to be a golden child? And if you are an expecting mother, yes, this is how you want your kid to be – full of virtues.
But many fail to see the fragile personality in making, behind the mask of aura and glamour. Everything they touch is gold (hence the name) until they grow up and their world crumbles into a ruin of disorientation.
A golden child will seldom develop psychologically and emotionally to individuate. This means, these children on growing up struggle to find an identity for themselves. On growing up, this child will almost be disabled to take care of oneself, to make one’s own decision.
A golden child who has undergone narcissistic parenting might have these following psycho-emotional problems when they grow up:
- Hypervigilance and obsessive traits
- Being hypersensitive to criticism
- Falling to respect and understand the importance of boundaries in a relationship with others and self
- Might become a people pleaser
- Poor decision-making skills
- Poor judgmental skills
- Attention seeking behavior
- Difficulties in dealing with hurdles and daily hassles
- As opposed to being emotionally sensitive, they might become detached and fail to make meaningful connections
- Might resort to manipulative techniques while dealing with people
- Poor ability to tolerate uncertainty and frustrations.
- They might grow up to have narcissistic traits.
The above-mentioned truths portray the costly side effect of favoritism. Pretty much every family has a golden child and it not only impacts the child but also anyone who is closely associated with him/her, especially his/her siblings.