5. They Threaten You Quite Often
In case you try to win an argument with a narcissist, they simply threaten you to the point that you’re forced to coil back into your shell of submission and blind obedience. The adverse effects of this include perpetuation of the suffering and regret on your part for being stuck in a never-ending vicious cycle of toxicity.
Narcissists have no regard for logic. Their baseless arguments are fueled by vanity and prejudice. They will threaten you by saying “If you say one more word, I’ll leave”, “Say a word and I’d beat the hell out of you”, etc, just to end the argument and claim victory for themselves.
6. Their Mood Swings Violate All Common Sense
Narcissists can be very enticing. They’ll lure you into believing that they have unconditional affection for you and that you mean the world to them. They’ll devise all possible ways to hypnotize you into their trap. And then all of a sudden, you’ll find them acting cold. Out of nowhere, their attitude takes a complete 180-degree turn.
You’ll be perplexed by such an unprecedented change. But unfortunately, you’re reaction won’t change anything. Even if you try to make things better, they’d stick to their temperament. Narcissists play by their rules and expect you to accord with their fleeting whimsical nature.
So How To Get A Narcissist To Leave You Alone?
So all these sounds pretty claustrophobic doesn’t it? But fear not. If you’re in such a situation, you can always carve a way out of this misery.
1. Peace Out
Probably the best way to avoid direct conflict with a potential narcissist. Allow them to realize their mistake by themselves. Now you’d probably think that there’s no point in experimenting with this idea, since they’d keep advocating such behaviors.
But here’s the point. The more you go on a head-on clash with them, the more they’d turn violent, making things all the worse. So if you want to preserve the relationship, just yield to their egotistic arguments. Let them blabber, don’t go against them. In time, you’ll find some diminishing trends in their aggressive behaviors.
2. Suggest, Don’t Order
Suppose you want them to work on their narcissism by meditating each day. But the question is, how do you convince them? The moment you put forward your advice, they’d bring forth their baseless arguments to the table. So it is suggested that you suggest them in a very subtle way, so that they don’t realize that they’re being advised a treatment. This would reduce the chances of your ideas getting bounced back.
3. Don’t Respond With Emotion
When you realize the conversation is getting heated up, just become aware of the situation and get a hold of your emotions. You have to make sure that your feelings don’t get apparent to the narcissist. Else you’d end up helping them fuel the negative atmosphere.
When you remain emotionally indifferent and stoic, they can find no room for inserting their narcissistic claws. Keep in mind that the person you’re dealing with is emotionally unstable and that you’re just helping them to overcome the ailment by maneuvering your emotional output.