From their perspective, they are trying to put you in a spot where something so embarrassing or bad couldn’t happen to you because of the “perfection” you possess, but it actually means that they aren’t acknowledging the truth. Nah!
“Nah! I don’t believe this could happen to you. You are smart enough to tackle it. You are awesome. I bet it’s nothing.”
Having such friends who express their opinion by making you look god-like should strictly be avoided.
4. The friend who is so uncomfortable with the vulnerability that she scolds you.
(“How did you let this happen?”)
We all have come across that one friend who constantly has to find a person or a reason to nail down any action or emotional vulnerability.
Instead of taking personal responsibility, they would try to pass it on to someone else. “Who did this to you? Who was that person? How could such a tragedy happen to you? What were you thinking about?”
Instead of possessing the ability to take personal responsibility, they try to pin it down on others. This would always make you believe that you weren’t at fault, and slowly you will develop this habit where you are finding people to blame.
5. The friend who needs you to be the pillar of worthiness and authenticity, who can’t help because she’s too disappointed in your imperfections.
This type of friend will always look up to you. They consider you to be the benchmark and you are their role models when it comes to a certain situation.
To some extent, this is a positive approach, yet once they start getting disappointed due to some flaws in you, it becomes a burden to live up to their expectations. These types of people would pull you down by setting high expectations. Failing to do so, would mean them being upset and constant reminders of how you disappoint them.
6. The friend who responds with sympathy (“I feel so sorry for you.”) rather than empathy (“I get it, I feel with you and I’ve been there.”)
You might be accustomed to regular, “Oh I feel so bad for you.”, “I hope everything is fine”, “God bless you” every time you face a situation.
You have a friend sympathizing. Yet they fail to actually recognize your pain and just express their sympathy. Instead of trying to fit in your shoes to actually experience what you did, they say things like “I feel sorry for you” this shows inadequacy in understanding what you actually felt.