Freeing Yourself of the Lifelong Sadness You’ve Felt as a Sensitive Person


The more sensitive we are at the end of the day, the more susceptible we are to seeing through the grand ploy, the great fraudulence of life that makes us feel incomplete and unfulfilled.

But this sensitivity is a great intelligence – and in fact, I would say it is the greatest kind of intelligence there is.

How to Find the Light by Inviting the Darkness In

When we talk about being miserable and depressed we usually want to “get rid of it” or “free ourselves of it,” but the truth is that unhappiness is not innately a “bad” thing that must be destroyed. The only “bad” thing is what we decide to do with those feelings; whether we decide to fully experience them and open ourselves to learn from them – or resist them, hate them, fear them and repress them.

Repressing, avoiding, hiding and resenting unhappiness is the only really true “sin” here, for it is directly harmful to our well-being both in the short and long term. The truth is that you are absolutely allowed to feel deeply miserable and unhappy. This doesn’t mean dramatizing your unhappiness, using your unhappiness to self-sabotage, or using it to self-pity, but realizing that you are allowed to feel sad means realizing that sadness is a normal (and in many cases) necessary human emotion. Without it, many of the greatest lessons of life would never be learned.

In my experience, the greatest lesson to learn as a sensitive person is that we are not who we think “we” are. Although our sensitivity might make us feel special or victimized on the surface, deeper than that, past our sensations, past our thoughts, past our memories, is the truth of who we really are. And this glimmer of truth at the very least brings hope, and at the very most shatters your entire self-concept bringing immense liberation, restfulness and peace.

So how do we find this glimmer of truth? How do we finally find a place to call “home”; a place where we belong, a place where we can rest? The problem here lies in our desire to search. We try to use the mind to cure the mind, but it doesn’t work that way. What we can do instead is to give ourselves the permission to purely experience our suffering, our pain and emptiness – not to dramatize, hate, hide or suppress it – but to consciously feel it.

Consciously experiencing pain without resisting it in any way, shape or form reveals a beautiful miracle: suddenly the pain is not there, suddenly it disappears, suddenly it evaporates in the light of consciousness. The only way you will believe this is by experiencing it first for yourself. But what will you discover after the pain is gone? Silence; a deep, pure, loving silence that exists behind every emotion, thought, belief and sensation. This silence is also known as “God,” “divinity,” “life force,” “nirvana,” “eternity,” “oneness” and “consciousness.” This is the truth of who you are – and darkness paradoxically opens a doorway to experiencing that light.

Your sensitivity is just as much a gift as it is a curse because it allows you to experience this reality more readily than others.

Finding Balance

Once you realize the truth: that your identity (sense of self) is an illusory barrier which unnecessarily prevents you from experiencing the limitlessness that is “you,” you start learning how to laugh at yourself again.