The most common thing people associate with happiness in their love lives: finding a soulmate.
Everyone wants to find a soulmate — their ‘one true love’.
Truth be told: there are billions of people in this world. That means by sheer population numbers, there are potentially thousands of people who we could meet in our lifetime, fall in love with and label as our ‘soulmate’.
For true believers in soulmates, that’s not something they want to hear. Particularly for those who feel they’ve found their soulmate: they don’t want to believe that there could ever be someone else out there.
Just like under religion’s terms: the purpose of life is to live in such a way that when we die we get to go to heaven.
Without it, what’s the point in living if it’s not in service of a greater purpose than ourselves?
Just as the purpose of love could be: we continue loving in hope that one day we will get to find and love our soulmate.
Without the possibility of a soulmate, what’s the purpose of dating?
You see the parallels I’m getting at. While I don’t subscribe to organized religion. I also don’t subscribe to the notion of one true soulmate either.
In fact, I want us to throw away the term ‘soulmate’ altogether. That’s because I think it boxes love into a corner.
What happens if you meet your soulmate, love your soulmate, but it doesn’t work out in the end and you break up?
What will you do then? What will your view of love be like then?
Your entire view of love will be shattered, as it was merely protected by this soft shell you attributed to a ‘soulmate,’ but once that shell breaks, so does all your hope for the possibility of love in the future.
Just as religion and our belief in a perfect God can confuse us when tragedy and darkness strikes, the existence of a “soulmate” can confuse us about love when the love we experience in reality doesn’t match up to the idealized and romanticized version in our heads.
So I say, forget trying to find a soulmate. Find a weird mate, instead.
Not because you’re jaded and pessimistic and have decided to downsize and truncate your belief in true love. But because being weird is the very essence of soul connection and alignment.
It’s a much more attainable and fun way to approach your love life.