Forget A Soulmate; Find A Weirdmate

February 14, 2019

Forget a soulmate. Find a weird mate. And be happy and silly for the rest of your life with the person you love.

The most common thing people associate with happiness in their love lives: finding a soulmate.

Everyone wants to find a soulmate — their ‘one true love’.

Truth be told: there are billions of people in this world. That means by sheer population numbers, there are potentially thousands of people who we could meet in our lifetime, fall in love with and label as our ‘soulmate’.

For true believers in soulmates, that’s not something they want to hear. Particularly for those who feel they’ve found their soulmate: they don’t want to believe that there could ever be someone else out there.

I’ve always thought soulmates in love are what religion is in life. It’s a system in place to instill more control and purpose to our lives. Without it, we feel out of control, with no real sense of purpose.

Just like under religion’s terms: the purpose of life is to live in such a way that when we die we get to go to heaven.

Without it, what’s the point in living if it’s not in service of a greater purpose than ourselves?

Just as the purpose of love could be: we continue loving in hope that one day we will get to find and love our soulmate.

Without the possibility of a soulmate, what’s the purpose of dating?

You see the parallels I’m getting at. While I don’t subscribe to organized religion. I also don’t subscribe to the notion of one true soulmate either.

In fact, I want us to throw away the term ‘soulmate’ altogether. That’s because I think it boxes love into a corner.

What happens if you meet your soulmate, love your soulmate, but it doesn’t work out in the end and you break up?

What will you do then? What will your view of love be like then?

Your entire view of love will be shattered, as it was merely protected by this soft shell you attributed to a ‘soulmate,’ but once that shell breaks, so does all your hope for the possibility of love in the future.

Just as religion and our belief in a perfect God can confuse us when tragedy and darkness strikes, the existence of a “soulmate” can confuse us about love when the love we experience in reality doesn’t match up to the idealized and romanticized version in our heads.

Soulmates give us the false allusion that we can not possibly love after love. It gives us the allusion that love should be perfect, without friction and hard times. It gives us the allusion that somebody comes perfectly, ready-made for us without us having to learn how to love and be loved by that person.

So I say, forget trying to find a soulmate. Find a weird mate, instead.

Not because you’re jaded and pessimistic and have decided to downsize and truncate your belief in true love. But because being weird is the very essence of soul connection and alignment.

It’s a much more attainable and fun way to approach your love life.

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🖋 Jamie Rea

Jamie Rea is a Canadian Dating, Relationship, and Life Coach, Award-Winning Screenwriter & Filmmaker, and Comedy Writer & Creator. He has written about relationships for various digital publications across Canada, the U.S., and the U.K., including Made Man, Mode Media, the talk, and Elite Daily. On top of his regular writing duties, Jamie coaches both men and women in professional coaching capacities, helping them to unlock their potential and find the great love they desire. He also Co-Founded the Legendary Love Academy with his partner, an online school for all the relationship education you need but didn't receive, and serves as Co-Host with his partner of their Podcast, The Power Couple Podcast. In addition, Jamie is also a Performer, Screenwriter, Filmmaker, and Comedian, and is regularly generating his own film and video content for the online space and the film industry. You can follow him and his work here: Coaching Services

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