Flip Side Of A Narcissist’s Point Of View

Bear with me, I know I’m intrusive and annoying, but I’m trying to provide a balance to the discourse so we don’t get too much further divided. Right off the bat, referring to a whole person (narcissist) by a certain set of grouped traits or behaviors is setting up the wrong dynamic.

We’re all in this together, the good, the bad and the socially unacceptable. I’m not here to tell you where you fall in that particular spectrum from my point of view or give you a pigeonhole that you must accept as your place in reality.

Let’s figure out where we ourselves may fall on that spectrum on our own, and apply those rules to ourselves first. Quotes I want to be famous for: “Society is just a loose association of sociopaths.” There I said it. Copyright that shit, it’s mine.

Moving on. “How Human Beings Express Love.” I’m gonna stop right there. It’s not how empaths and narcissists express love, but humans. Narcissism exists as a set of behaviors, traits, etc. that make up a part of a whole human being. Not everyone will fall so neatly into this strictly binary spreadsheet.

There are many more columns to add if we want to get this categorizing of human beings done properly. It’s not the SATs. How would you feel if you fell just a few points short of making the cut to be included with humanity? I guess I’d hope it was a test I could retake at a later time.

So anyway, we are not our traits. At least not completely. We are people who choose to act in certain ways and might wind up identifying very closely with every action or belief or behavior that we embrace. Especially when there are patterns over time.

But, somewhere in there is a core of, I’d like to believe, raw humanity, always capable of receiving new information and different programming.

So how we love falls into this. Let’s just label our two categories, “Behaviors and motivations we might wish to strive for and act from and others that we might wish to avoid.” Then we can either jump on board or find a new place to exist, alongside others of a similar mindset to our own. And I’m sure even the narcissists would become envious of the people in the happy, fun-loving light crowd while being extremely unhappy being in the company of their own type and wish to join them eventually. Even if it meant they had to change their behaviors to do so.

So, anyway, love bombing. Yeah, that’s a thing. No disputing its existence as a set of, perhaps, deliberately deceptive steps in an evil, cultish agenda. But to imply guilt by own’s own perceived impression of another person’s assumed motivation is presumptuous. Who is qualified to sit as judge and arbiter of another’s inner thought process? I don’t even know my own motivations half the time, why should I assume I can correctly interpret someone else’s?

This is just going to keep getting repeated in my further analysis of the other points outlined. We can all agree that selfishness, inconsiderate, evil agenda=bad, and thoughtful, loving, considerate agenda=good.

Language is a tricky thing, so I’m probably making a mess of it right now. I’m just here to provide a balance, a little contrast, to the picture. Other than that, everyone is just peachy dandy in my book, really.