4. Try something new.
A client of mine recently went through a terrible breakup. She was blindsided and left broken and empty.
This is not the first time has happened to her. Like all of us, as she goes through the dating world, she has gotten her heart broken more than once.
Typically, what she does when she’s heartbroken is she stays at home, feeling sorry for herself, googling articles to justify how she feels about how her ex behaved, eating ice cream, and generally feeling sorry for herself.
She decided to do things differently this time. After spending the weekend with her mother, crying and getting love, she drove directly to a music store and bought herself a violin.
When she was younger, she played the violin. She was really good at it and it made her really happy. When she went off to college and started her career, the violin fell to the side. She wanted to bring it back.
So, she bought the violin and filled those empty spaces with the instrument that had always brought her such joy. She was able to re-familiarize herself with how to play and she was able to build her skill and find true joy. It was far better for her than sitting in front of her computer, reading things that were making her depressed, and eating food that was bad for her.
So, is there something that you have always wanted to do or something from your childhood that you could start doing again that would make you feel good?
I encourage you to think about this and to take the steps that you can take to try something new, something that you never shared with your ex so that you get to know yourself again and not see yourself only as part of a pair.
5. Take my course!
I have created a course, 4 Weeks to Letting Go of Love and Moving On, that I created especially to fill the void that has been left after a breakup.
When we are left with empty space after a relationship ends, we are often left helpless and hopeless about what to do next. That empty space can be very debilitating.
In my course, you will find daily activities, things that you can do to help you fill that empty space in a healthy way so that you can move forward with your life.
The course is broken up into 4 weeks. The first week is about letting go of the pain. The second week is about rebuilding your self-esteem. The third week is about preparing to put yourself out there, either to date or just to live. And week four is about taking action with the goals you set.
This course is just the thing that you need to fill the empty space left after your break up, to rebuild your self-esteem, to get past the pain, and to move on with your life.
Check it out here. It might just change your life.
Filling the empty space that is caused by a break up is an important part of getting through the pain and to come out the other side.
If you sit around at home, feeling sorry for yourself and not making any efforts to fill the space, you will never get past this breakup.
I encourage you to get off the couch right now, to spend time with people who love you, to plan an excursion, to rearrange stuff in your life, to try something new, and to check out my new course.
I can promise you that, with time, this empty space will be completely filled with life and love. For now, take steps to deal with it so that you can heal and move forward!
You can do it!
Written By: Mitzi Bockmann
Originally Published On: Let Your Dreams Begin