A fantasy bond feels familiar and safer. But it’s a destructive type of relationship.
Each is looking to the other to fulfil unmet childhood needs. Both of you are unable to trust, are defensive, repeating negative patterns and behavior.
I lost myself in this process. I walked on eggshells, changed my behavior trying to fix things.
Depended my entire happiness on him, rather than finding it within. I ended up hollow and numbed.
I had to break the fantasy bond and see it for what it was.
Look to saving myself, working on me.
The biggest turning point was when I asked myself:
What if he never changes into that dream man in my head?
I had to be the one to love myself instead. And that was how I started to heal.
Learning to love myself. Building my self-esteem.
Loving me as much I wanted others to love me.
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