So, what’s the point?
The point is, we all want to be loved in a certain way. And we treat others the way we would like to be treated. It’s mostly a kind of mirror-effect we’re talking about. For example, if you wanted your partner to not watch television while having lunch and talk to you instead, you’d do the same. But conversely, you might imbibe your partner’s bad habits too, even if you disapprove of them.
So it’s important to analyze what message you’re sending to your partner, and be aware and observant to receive the signs they send too. Maybe your partner likes lunch dates, but not expensive gifts like you do. It isn’t fair to expect them to know that, and you both have to speak out and understand each other’s language of love, for the relationship to sustain and flourish.
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Superficial fluff.
There are only rare exceptions to a dictum that suggests that if you are told there is only ONE WAY or an “always” or “never”, it’s likely a logical fallacy, or a misprint, or a lie.
Read this again: Psychologists have been trying to de-mystify the reasons behind failed relationships for ages, or so it seems but are no closer to finding an answer. But in a rather interesting article by psychologist Katherine Schafler published in the Business Insider, she conjectures that the root of most broken relationships is simply an inability to communicate through the “language of love”.
HOW MANY FALLACIES can you see in this one set of “studies”?