8. The ‘Look At Me’ Attitude
We introverts will never get it. Introverts hate having attention drawn to ourselves. When we see others draw the attention of others to themselves, we either cringe or just stare in awe. We don’t hate it that bad if you’re drawing the attention away from us. That’s where we can shake hands. This is just one of the many introvert behaviors that extroverts need to understand. We may enjoy having the attention on us from time to time but only purposefully. We would rather observe than interact.
7. Domination Of The Entire Conversation
You may already know that introverts don’t like expressing themselves through speech as much as extroverts do. But that does not mean we get to be thrown under the bus every time we have a conversation. We have opinions and perspectives too. Introverts may not be the best at communicating our thoughts and ideas on the subject being discussed, but if we are interested in the topic, we’re all in. We give our attention, time and energy to keep the conversation entertaining and informative at the same time. It’s not that introverts aren’t good at keeping up conversations, it’s just that we can’t fake our interest on a topic that doesn’t spark our eyes as we speak.
So, even though we may not be able to contribute much to the conversation, give us some space and time to have a say as well. We want in on the conversations that interest us just as much as you extroverts do.
Some people are open books; they’ll talk about anything and everything. These people are not introverts or do not show introvert behaviors, who are, in general, private about personal matters and feel incredibly self-conscious when those details are laid bare. Gossip falls under the “things that don’t matter” category. Sure, everyone loves a juicy gossip from time to time, but when that’s the only conversation topic, introverts get annoyed fast.
5. Feeling The Need To Fill The Silence
A parade of empty small talk is just so boring for introverts. We would rather spend time in our heads in silence than try and come up with the most hollow conversation topics. It just doesn’t feel right and we do not enjoy small talk at all. We appreciate silence rather than try to fill it in with meaningless words and energy consuming attention. It’s best if we both keep quiet and think to ourselves and maybe, just maybe, come up with a conversation topic that’s actually worthwhile and entertaining.
So, instead of trying to fill the silence with close ended conversation topics, how about spend some time in silence and do a little spring cleaning up in your head?
4. Constant Intense Eye Contact
This can be either terribly awkward or romantic as hell. No in between. But in this case, we’re talking about the terribly awkward one. The ones where you have to look away from time to time just to maintain your sanity. Yes, too little eye contact can be disrespectful, but too much eye contact can be as disrespectful. Don’t go looking into the eyes of everyone you talk to for more than 3-5 seconds depending on what you’re talking about. If you are talking to more than one person, make sure you look into the eyes of everyone you’re talking to one by one. Don’t fixate your glance on one person only – it’s scary.
3. Invasion Of Personal Space
I swear you’ve got to draw the line with a bigger pencil these days. People tend to get on our nerves when they invade our personal space. Keep your distance when you talk to someone and don’t get too close unless they feel comfortable around you. It is one of the many introvert behaviors to set boundaries that most people tend to misunderstand. We keep to ourselves for ourselves. This too should not be taken personally. We just expect you to respect our personal space.
Some people love getting close. It’s more exciting that way. But a lack of personal space, especially in a public setting, can push introverts over the edge. Plus, right now, personal space invaders just aren’t safe, as it’s a quick way to spread Covid-19. There’s a good reason introverts were social distancing before it was cool.
2. Unexpected Phone Calls
How many times do I have to remind even my closest friends to send me a text rather than call me? That sudden burst of anxiety really throws us off and we tend to fumble if we’re occupied with any task. Calls are just not our thing. Like a crying baby or a barking dog, a ringing phone demands your attention right now. Unexpected calls leave introverts no time to mentally prepare to be “on,” something crucial for our deep-thinking brains. Thankfully, texting has become the norm. Texting over phone calls any day.
Save the worst for the last – drama. Everyone enjoys a little bit of drama from time to time, others just don’t know when to stop. Drama demands a lot of attention, that’s why introverts tend to walk away rather than take part. It’s one reason introverts choose a small circle of friends over a big network — and why they love spending time alone. There’s less drama with less people. As long as the drama can be kept at a minimum, we’re good.
If you weren’t aware of these introvert behaviors of being annoyed by extroverts, then you do now. Let us know what else annoys you as an introvert in the comments below. Here’s a little something to help you understand the many introvert behaviors and terms.