Look after you.
Stop wasting your energy, when it’s better used to heal you instead.
It’s time to take your power back.
If the fear of the future scares you. If big decisions about whether to leave them or not overwhelm you. Don’t think about that now. You don’t need to know all the answers just yet.
You just need to take the first baby steps to recovery and forging a healthier path.
First things first
This is what they are:
Do your best to detach from them and their behaviour. It’s not your fault or responsibility.
Allow them to feel the consequences of their own actions. Instead of always picking up the pieces for them.
Put You First
Start by doing one nice thing for yourself every day. Whatever that is.
A surf. A walk with your dog on the beach. A bubble bath. A guilt-free purchase of something that makes you feel good. One nice thing every day.
Join a Support Group
Join a support group in person or online. That was invaluable for me.
Sharing and listening to others like me gave me a sense of relief. I wasn’t alone.
Many were further down the track than I was. I learnt from them too. Applying their experience and knowledge to my own situation. I did and it worked.
Get Professional Help
Seek professional help and support. You can’t do this alone. Get professional advice and practical help. Including financial or legal advice to know where you stand. I’ve listed domestic abuse helplines here.
Knowledge is Power
Read every self-help book you can get your hands on. Knowledge is power. This is what I did.
Understanding narcissistic abuse and codependency gave me the tools I needed to break the cycle.
If you’re emotionally overwhelmed. Feeling trapped.
Focussing on you is the crucial first step. Getting support to build your self-esteem is the way to start getting your power back.
You don’t need to make big scary decisions like leaving your relationship right now.
When you need to know the answer to that, you’ll be strong enough to decide.
Are you emotionally overwhelmed? Feeling trapped? Do you want the old you back? Let me know in the comments below.
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