How Emotionally Immature Parents Have a Lasting Effect In A Child’s Adult Life

Emotionally Immature Parents Have Lasting Effect Childs Adult Life

I could forge a new relationship with them. I could nurture my own needs to become a healthy adult.

I had to stop being the rescuer in my relationship, thinking:

I can fix this

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Now was the time to save and love myself.

Boundaries were key to this. Setting strong ones and sticking to them.

Walking away from abuse and never going back. No matter how hard this was and how much it hurt.

I was the Gatekeeper and Protector of my emotional needs now.

Learning how to detach from my parents was crucial too. And not slip back into the familiar, dysfunctional roles of the past.

Establishing new ground rules for our relationship to work. Saying no to them sometimes.

And now here I am. I’ve broken the cycle.

I somehow managed not to become an emotionally immature parent myself.

Loving me first allowed me to nurture my own children’s needs. I was able to raise them into healthy men.

This post was inspired by my recent reading this brilliant book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting or self-involved parents. By Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

Are you the child of an emotionally immature parent? How is affected you as an adult? Let me know in the comments below.

Originally appeared on Written by Vivian Mc Grath

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