Rejection can come in many forms such as rejection by peers, by partner, or by parents. Regardless of whom rejection comes from, it can have detrimental effects on our self-esteem and self-awareness. Especially when a child experiences rejection from their primary caregiver, instead of unconditional love and acceptance, it opens a gnawing hole in their little heart.
Even after growing up, such a child will think of themselves as unworthy and undeserving of love. A person with rejection issues will always downplay their achievements and live as a recluse, afraid of opening up to others.
Steps You Can Take Towards Healing Rejection Issues:
- Face your internalized fears and anxious thoughts.
- Take more chances to showcase your talents.
- Be assertive.
- Work on your insecurities and do things that make you happy.
- Don’t attach your self-worth to others’ appreciation.
When we are exposed to an unjust environment as a child, our idea of right and wrong becomes tainted. Growing up under an authoritarian parent or witnessing favoritism at school can affect our sense of justice. As a result, some of us can become very rigid in our approach and set very high standards for ourselves as well as others.
People with this emotional baggage tend to become sticklers for rules and expect the same level of perfection and sincerity from others in all spheres of life. As a result, they come off as obnoxious and don’t have many friends.
Steps You Can Take Towards Healing Injustice Issues:
- Identify your trust issues.
- Reduce your rigidity and become more flexible.
- Lower your high standards of expectations.
- Open up more and take chances with people.
- Accept others without judgment.
Children growing up in a toxic family often witness violence between their parents or suffer violence as a form of disciplinary action. Needless to say, such an unhealthy experience distorts and destabilizes the child’s mind and they start internalizing the violent pattern.
As a result, even after growing up, the child with this poor behavioral reference will repeat this abusive cycle in their adult life. Either they will become aggressive or violent with their partners or attract abusive lovers for themselves.
Steps You Can Take Towards Healing Violence Issues:
- Seek therapy or consult a mental health professional.
- Recognize the need for effective anger management.
- Improve your self-image and make healthy choices while choosing your romantic partners.
- Identify the reasons you are perpetuating the toxic cycle of abuse.
When people are systematically humiliated, they start developing low-self esteem and anxiety. Whether being bullied at school or mistreated for airing an opinion at home, humiliation for days on end can destroy our self-confidence and well-being and make us mentally dependent on others.
People who have been exposed to humiliation for a long time either lose their ambition or become tyrannical as a defense mechanism. They might choose to humiliate others for protecting their own emotions.
Steps You Can Take Towards Healing Humiliation Issues:
- Be more independent.
- Work on the priorities of your life.
- Express yourself more.
- Know from where your fears are triggering.
- Be kind to others and stop pushing people away.
When parents often go back on their words or don’t keep their promises, kids start developing a habit of mistrust or a fear of trusting others. Children who realize they cannot depend on their caregivers tend to become skeptical and doubtful about everyone.
Adults who have suffered betrayal sometimes feel that they need to have some kind of control or leverage over others. This belief makes them the suspicious and controlling kind.
Steps You Can Take Towards Healing Betrayal Issues:
- Learn how to trust others.
- Delegate responsibilities at work.
- Improve your patience level.
- Be more tolerant of others.
It Ends With You
Although you had little control over the situations that gave rise to your emotional wounds, you can always take your power back. What happened to you is neither your identity nor does it have to become your future. You are the writer of your story. Don’t let your emotional wounds fester and infect your next generation.