3. Visualize the barrier and dissolve it.
In a quiet place, try and visualize your emotional numbness as a wall you have created, then ask yourself the following questions:
- How thick is the wall?
- What is the wall made of? Is it cold metal? Plastic? Or maybe cotton wool?
- Does the wall feel cold or warm? Does it move around?
- Has it remained static or grown in thickness over time?
- Do you see that the wall now has cracks in it?
- If your wall has a personality and a voice, what is it saying to you?
- Are you ready to let it go?
4. Thanking and transforming the numbness.
Thank the numbness for the purpose it has served in your life. But now it is time to break through and move towards the other side.
Say to your shield “Thank you for protecting me all these years. Without you, couldn’t live through those hard times. However, I am stronger now, and I no longer need you. I promise you, I will take care of myself. It is safe for us to say goodbye.”
You may add affirmations that help you move forward in life:
- ‘I am ready to experience life’
- ‘It is okay for me to feel sad sometimes.’
- ‘Feeling tender is not a sign of weakness’
Things may not change overnight, but the next time you feel the shield emerging, you would be more aware. It will no longer be an unconscious destructive force outside of your control. Your emotional wall is there to protect you in times of danger. You may choose to use it, or not. But the power remains in you.
5. Connect to your physical self.
For people with emotional numbness, life can be an out-of-body experience. Reconnecting with your physical body is an essential step in feeling alive.
Different things work for different people. Practicing deep-breathing techniques, self-massage, yoga, meditation, and tai-chi are some of the ways to connect with your mind, body, and soul.
6. Do something cathartic.
Anger is a challenging emotion for many people. It may well be the very emotions that you have defended against with your shield. Allow yourself to get in touch with your vitality through the following cathartic exercise, even if it feels unnatural at first.
- Scream into a pillow to let it all out.
- Write a journal to document moments of your life that created feelings of immense sadness or loneliness.
- Paint or write a poem to express yourself creatively.
- Enrol for an intense dance or exercise class.
- Join a group for people with emotional numbness disorder.
Finally, dear sensitive souls, I would like to remind you are you are worth a full life.
No matter how have you pretended and defended for the last many years, deep inside your longing to love and to receive love once again never dies.
When you begin to acknowledge the deep-rooted sense of fear, shame, abandonment, or rejection, a natural thawing process will follow. Once the weight of heavy emotions is lifted, for the first time in a long time, you will see the reservoir of passion and vitality that have always been there, waiting to be discovered by you.
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Written By Imi Lo Originally Appeared In Eggshell Therapy
If you are someone who has suffered from emotional numbness for a very long time, then you need to be patient with yourself, while you try to get out of that zone. Emotional numbness can be a tricky and hard thing to move on from, but with a little bit of self-love, support, and optimism, you will be able to do it.