How to Embrace Being a Lone Wolf and Walk Your OWN Path
Walking your own path, on some level, always requires a conscious choice in which you say “YES, this feels true to me and what my soul really craves for.” Even if you accidentally stumble onto that path, walking an authentic path always requires some level of self-reflection.
At some point in your life journey, you will need to embrace being a lone wolf. You’ll have to go at it alone. You’ll have to go against the grain, break free from the herd, ask the difficult questions, and face the confronting truths which may alienate you from others. You will need to be discerning, see through the bullshit, shrug off the haters, and keep moving forward, even if you are tired of fighting.
Being a lone wolf means being a warrior. It means standing up for what you believe in and courageously walking into the wild unknown. It’s all worth it. I can assure you of that and I can keep asserting it until I turn black and blue, but ultimately you must discover this for yourself. Don’t take anything I say as truth unless you have experienced it directly.
If you’re drawn towards embracing your inner wolf and courageously walking your own path, here are some helpful pointers:
1. Understand and accept that there will be some backlash
Whether from your friends, family members, or society at large, you will inevitably encounter naysayers. At some point, you will be met with cynics, killjoys, and sourpusses who seek to bring you down to their level.
The reason why they fight against you is that in their minds you invalidate their way of existence. By courageously forging your own path you are causing them to reflect on their own lives and decisions.
If on some level, they’ve realized that they’ve followed the crowd and made no unique decisions of their own, they will feel a sense of resentment which they’ll project onto you. Although it’s not nice to be on the receiving end of this, understand that the issue lies with them, not you.
Everyone walking a path with a heart will experience social unease at some point – you’re certainly not alone in facing this problem. Just keep moving forward and remind yourself that it’s no one’s place to dictate what your life should be like except you.
2. Ask yourself, “What do I truly and deeply want?”
This is not a question you ask just once, this is a question you continuously ask on your path, thousands of times over. Keep bringing back your focus on what you desire on the deepest level – not what others want to project or dump onto you.
What do you feel called to do? What do you wish to accomplish in your life? What wild paths are you afraid to take because they are so alien but that you feel secretly drawn towards? Our paths are not static: they are constantly shifting, evolving, and changing. By repeatedly asking yourself this question, you will be able to reinvent yourself over and over again.
Instead of getting stuck in an old and stagnant way of living, you will be in tune with your soul.
3. Question everything
Being a lone wolf and walking your own path go hand-in-hand with a sharp mind. How are we to discover what is our “stuff” vs other’s “stuff” if we can’t be discerning? How can we learn what is true and what is deceptive without the ability to analyze?
Your mind is a tool that needs to be sharpened. Without having a sharp mind, it’s easy to fall into delusion, naivety, and stumble into rabbit holes which lead to great confusion. Without the ability to use critical thought (and balance that with an open heart), you can easily fall prey to emotional and spiritual predators out there.
Your ability to be discerning is your protective sword on your path. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to be discerning! Don’t let anyone convince you of anything until you have experienced it yourself. Read more about the importance of spiritual discernment.