This point thus highlights what we need from others and what we can give to others during this difficult time.
So, when you are having difficulty, share those painful feelings with someone who can mirror back to you acceptance, loving compassion, and the deep recognition of what you are going through. And it serves as a reminder to be there for someone else when they need you.
4. Develop A Vision For Valued Outcomes In The Short And Long Term, And Work Toward Them The Best You Can.
I will often ask clients to reflect on the following: Given the who you are, the situation that you are in, and your core values, how do you want to be, and where do you want to be, in the short term and over a longer period? Sometimes the answer in the short term is obvious. Often, this is a complicated question that requires significant reflection. But investing the time in breaking it down and developing the answer is well worth the effort. It creates an “imaginal” representation that can serve as a template regarding what you want to be as you continue to learn and grow.
Ultimately, finding one’s path, especially in the face of much disruption, can be highly challenging. Thus, it requires systematic effort and reflection. Then it requires courage and commitment to attempt to realize it.
Reference For more detailed information on resilient coping, see the following: A PT Magazine article on how many folks react negatively to negative feelings and how to reverse that cycle. On turning your inner critic into a metacognitive observer that is curious, accepting, loving, motivated. A guided blog tour on learning to process negative emotions A guided blog tour on what to do if you are depressed
Written by: Gregg Henriques Originally appeared on: Psychology Today Republished with permission.