After a certain point within a healthy intimate relationship, each partner recognizes a close connection and changes his or her view from “me” to “we.” For instance, wherein at the beginning of a relationship, a partner may say, “Mark and I are going to out of town this weekend,” when the relationship deepens, both partners change their view of themselves, as well as their lexicon: “We are going out of town this weekend.”
Lastly, within healthy intimate relationships, there is a mutual volition for wanting the relationship to continue indefinitely, which further allows the other six components of intimacy to grow.
With the idea that the relationship is to continue for an indeterminate amount of time, it allows for trust to continue to deepen, common knowledge to further be shared, mutuality to envelop, care to be shown, and continual effort be put into responsiveness and interdependence for both partners.
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Miller, R. (2014). Intimate relationships. McGraw-Hill Higher Education.
Written By Mariana Bockarova Originally Published In Psychology Today
These seven elements are crucial to having a truly intimate and happy relationship. No matter how different you and your partner are from each other, as long as your relationship has these virtues, you have nothing to worry about. Focus on these, and just see how your relationship keeps on getting better with time.