Asking requires courage and an ability to deal with whatever comes our way: yes, no, or maybe, and the ever-frustrating yes that’s really a no in disguise.
Asking is our best chance of having life go as we’d like. After all, who’s going to advocate for your concerns, if not you?
10. Misdeeds of the Past
Sh#t happens. And when it happens in your marriage, it can be heartbreakingly painful. Even so, unless you’re an archaeologist or historian, or you work at the Smithsonian, dredging up the past is a pointless activity.
What’s the value of getting all fired-up about the time your spouse shamelessly flirted at the neighbor’s Christmas party… 17 years ago?
While it’s true that those who fail to learn from the past are doomed to repeat it, most people drag out old grievances not to learn from them, but to hurt their spouse with them.
Thank goodness many of us mature with time. Thanks goodness, we grow.
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