The best things usually take time, which is why most people choose not to rush into a relationship, especially during Valentine’s season!
The social picture doesnโt get enough admiration on Valentineโs day when it’s just one person in it, regardless of what you’re wearing or where youโre posing from that day.
Thoughts like; โI spent the Christmas holiday all alone, do I have to go through the same suffering for valentine?โ might force you to do what you know youโre not really ready for.
“The right man comes at the right time.”
So are you going to let social pressure make you do when you are clearly not ready for it?ย Do you want to rush into a relationship because you desire to have a perfect 24 hours โ sometimes just 12 hours? I mean youโve got to sleep right? There are many reasons why you must not rush into a relationship during Valentine’s season, no matter how much you might want to.
5 reasons why should not rush into a relationship during Valentine’s season:ย
1. You May Compromise Yourself
ย The rush of getting a โbaeโ for Valentine’s Day may sometimes make you compromise and do things that you donโt really want to do.
The firstย thing you need to know is whenever we do things in a hurry, we usually don’t end up with the best results and we also end up stressing ourselves to burnout.
“There are people out there who are waiting to meet you. Waiting to love you. You have to stick around for them.” – Benedict Smith
You may end up hurting your existing relationships, push family and friends away UNCONSCIOUSLY because youโre focused on spending more time with your new bae0.
Your desperation could also make people who like you (that youโre bugging for dates) begin to avoid you or stay away from you.
Other than that, even when you finally secure your bae, you may end up saying things that you donโt mean – things that are against your values or make promises that you know you canโt keep, just so you donโt wrong them and get on their bad side.ย
2. You Might Miss Reality
As you already know, love takes time, and itโs not something that happens overnight. If you rush into a relationship because of valentine’s day, it usually wonโt be led by love, even if you say โit’s love at first sightโ.
The truth is everything good takes time. Youโre most likely not going to get the best if you donโt give it time to blossom.
Rushing into a relationship doesnโt give you room for understanding yourself properly. Your intuition might tell you that they might like something, but when you buy it and give it to them, they end up making faces and hating it.ย
Another way you might miss reality is that you wonโt get to see them for who they truly are. Then youโd start thinking โif only I gave it more timeโ, but by then it will be too late.ย
Making the wrong decision during this season can make you go through a lot of pain in the future if you do not properly think everything through.ย
3. You Might End Up Doing Too Much But Not Enough
In order to please them from every aspect, so that they donโt find reasons to say no, youโre going to do everything remotely possible to make them happy.
But what you might not realize is that most of the things youโre going to do are not what they really want. Because at that stage, you do things which you THINK IS RIGHT, not what they actually and really want.ย
Sometimes, your friends might tell you, youโre not on the right path, but you’re going to ignore them because they seem like an obstacle to your goal.
4. You Wonโt Be Able to Tell If Itโs Real
Itโs somewhat inevitable that at this stage when you want to get into a relationship, you will want to pamper them, buy buying them expensive gifts and whatnot. This is because your mind is telling you that the best way to make them stick around, is by satisfying them with material things.ย
What if they agree to go into a relationship with you because the gifts are too good to ignore and not you being too good to ignore? DANG!
“Never rush into a relationship. True love is bound to reveal itself sooner or later.” – Jayden Hayes
Thereโs nothing as saddening as being in a relationship with someone who doesnโt โfeel the sameโ.ย
Unfortunately, you might also get into a relationship with someone who is just looking for a rebound, in which case it will be emotionally devastating for you.
What if theyโre not ready to build a relationship because the last one they tried to build one with didnโt work out, and theyโve given up on relationships altogether? But, since you put a lot of pressure on them, they had no other option than to agree?
5. It Will Lead You to Self Doubt
In the end, if eventually, things donโt turn out the way you wanted it to, then it means youโve found yourself in another โfailed relationshipโ.
And then youโll begin to feel like youโre hard to love, and you will never find that special someone.
This could lead you to not trust your self-image and then fall into the stereotype that love isnโt real.
Weโre not encouraging you to be single during the couples season, all weโre saying is, donโt rush into something that will help you feel happy for one day and miserable for the rest of your life.
Here are the key takeaways
- You might lose yourself trying to please someone else and satisfy their needs.
- The good things in life take time, so are you looking for a good thing or a quick fix?
- Thereโs nothing as frustrating as doing things with a lot of effort for someone who doesnโt acknowledge or appreciate it. Sadly, thatโs how it feels when you donโt take the time to know someone properly.
- What if theyโre not ready for a relationship or love you back?
- If it fails you have another negative score in a relationship and might feel love isnโt for you.
Love is not temporary, nor should it be treated that way. If you want to experience a meaningful relationship, you will have to be patient and wait for the right person to come along. Being with someone who does not give you the love you deserve, will only give you pain and hurt. After all, you deserve only the best.
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