You don’t need to be a pessimist and expect unexpected challenges and disappointments to crop up every single moment of your life. You simply need to be aware that life can go haywire any moment. “Those who expect that life will throw you difficulties and disappointments are the ones who are the strongest and most resilient out of all of us,” adds Genefe.
4. Create an action plan
When life seems bleak, it is likely you will experience an emotional turmoil and lack willpower, energy and motivation. This is why it is crucial that you have an action plan to help you develop emotional stability. Figure out what you can do to get out of the situation you’re in. When you have a clear intention, you will feel a rush of energy inside you, which will motivate you to take the necessary action.
Emotionally stable individuals know exactly what they need to do to get out of the dump so that it doesn’t cripple them for too long, says Genefe Navilon. She adds “What you should do is to create micro-plans: a checklist of things that can get you moving.” Make plans that enable you to accomplish small daily tasks that you wouldn’t be able to complete otherwise. It can be anything from taking a shower to sending an email. As you progress through your checklist, you will start getting more things done.
“Moving life forward is key to emotional health because it’s the ultimate sign that you haven’t given up… Small steps forward are infinitely better than no steps taken at all. Thus, creating action plans and taking action are very helpful to reinforce your emotional health and stability,” writes Bestselling author Stephen Guise.
5. Learn to say “NO”
If you want to develop emotional stability, then one of the fundamental ways to do it is to stop saying “yes” all the time and say “no”, when you want to, according to nuclear engineer Melissa Ricker. She says that people who are emotionally stable “do not over-commit themselves or make false promises. They just say no to requests that they don’t want to do or don’t have time for.”
If you are emotionally unstable, then it is likely that you have difficulty saying no and as a result others take advantage of you. Emotionally stability gives you the confidence to say no. “These calm, yet assertive people don’t feel bad about saying no either, and they don’t even need to explain why they are saying no. After all, “No” is a complete sentence,” adds Melissa.
Although you don’t need to be mean or rude to tell what you genuinely feel, you need to do what’s best for you no matter what. Otherwise you might end up losing not just your emotional stability, but also your self-esteem.
“When you don’t say no to anything, you are saying yes to everything,” says entrepreneur Lachlan Brown. He adds “In order to find more balance, you need to stop saying yes to everything and feeling like you owe all your time to other people. Start by cutting out the things that drain your energy and awareness and be diligent about saying no when the moment, opportunity, or even a person doesn’t serve you.”
When you say no to certain responsibilities, expectations, requests and people, you create more space for what is actually important to you.
However, that’s not all. There are many other ways for you to develop emotional stability. Here are some of the most simple and effective ways to cultivate emotional stability in your life:
- Identify your stress and anxiety triggers
- Be selective about your social circle
- Engage in hobbies and do things that you love
- Make sure to seek help when you need it
- Accept your flaws and be authentic
- Tune into your intuition and instincts
- Listen more than you speak
- Practice mindfulness meditation and breathing exercises
- Take risks and learn from mistakes & failures
- Take good care of yourself
- Practice self healing
- Listen to relaxing music
Develop emotional stability and cultivate happiness
No matter what the circumstances in your life may be, tell yourself that you’re always in control – if not of the situation, then in control of yourself and your reactions. Decide how you want to respond to life and be intentional in your approach. Life is what you make of it, not what happens to you.