“Moving life forward is key to emotional health because it’s the ultimate sign that you haven’t given up… Small steps forward are infinitely better than no steps taken at all. Thus, creating action plans and taking action are very helpful to reinforce your emotional health and stability,” writes Bestselling author Stephen Guise.
5. Learn to say “NO”
If you want to develop emotional stability, then one of the fundamental ways to do it is to stop saying “yes” all the time and say “no”, when you want to, according to nuclear engineer Melissa Ricker. She says that people who are emotionally stable “do not over-commit themselves or make false promises. They just say no to requests that they don’t want to do or don’t have time for.”
If you are emotionally unstable, then it is likely that you have difficulty saying no and as a result others take advantage of you. Emotionally stability gives you the confidence to say no. “These calm, yet assertive people don’t feel bad about saying no either, and they don’t even need to explain why they are saying no. After all, “No” is a complete sentence,” adds Melissa.
Although you don’t need to be mean or rude to tell what you genuinely feel, you need to do what’s best for you no matter what. Otherwise you might end up losing not just your emotional stability, but also your self-esteem.
“When you don’t say no to anything, you are saying yes to everything,” says entrepreneur Lachlan Brown. He adds “In order to find more balance, you need to stop saying yes to everything and feeling like you owe all your time to other people. Start by cutting out the things that drain your energy and awareness and be diligent about saying no when the moment, opportunity, or even a person doesn’t serve you.”
When you say no to certain responsibilities, expectations, requests and people, you create more space for what is actually important to you.
However, that’s not all. There are many other ways for you to develop emotional stability. Here are some of the most simple and effective ways to cultivate emotional stability in your life:
- Identify your stress and anxiety triggers
- Be selective about your social circle
- Engage in hobbies and do things that you love
- Make sure to seek help when you need it
- Accept your flaws and be authentic
- Tune into your intuition and instincts
- Listen more than you speak
- Practice mindfulness meditation and breathing exercises
- Take risks and learn from mistakes & failures
- Take good care of yourself
- Practice self-healing
- Listen to relaxing music
Develop emotional stability and cultivate happiness
No matter what the circumstances in your life may be, tell yourself that you’re always in control – if not of the situation, then in control of yourself and your reactions. Decide how you want to respond to life and be intentional in your approach. Life is what you make of it, not what happens to you.
Licensed clinical psychologist Chloe Carmichael, Ph.D. explains “When you feel like your emotions aren’t your own, remember that you can still choose how to react to those emotions. With a little mindfulness and a bit of practice, being emotionally stable is achievable. Emotional stability starts from you, but don’t hesitate to get help managing your emotions if you need it.”
Control your emotions to control yourself. Control yourself to control your life.