How To Develop Emotional Stability: 5 Empowering Steps

How To Develop Emotional Stability Empowering Steps

Here are 5 ways to develop emotional stability and live a happier, better, and more resilient life.

1. Shift your perspective

Whenever anything bad happens in our life, we immediately have a strong negative reaction to it. Negative experiences often lead to negative emotional responses which are much stronger than it needs to be. As most of us don’t expect the worst to happen to us at any given moment, we tend to react strongly which clouds our judgment and decision-making abilities.

However, when you change your perspective and look at things in a  different way, you will realize that challenges are often opportunities in disguise.

How To Develop Emotional Stability: 5 Empowering Steps

We all have tunnel-vision – we only see what we want to see. But you’ll be surprised how looking at things differently can help you assess negative life situations better,”writes author Genefe Navilon.

Due to negative bias, humans are tricked into looking at the negative aspects more than the positive outcomes of a situation. The fact is, there is always an upside to every adversity you face. But it ultimately depends on how you look at an experience.

Bestselling author Stephen Guise explainsI think by default we tend to pick the worst one because negative events bias our mind to negative thoughts about those events. But if we consider other, more positive perspectives, we can reverse this negativity cycle. Look for the positives in negative situations – they’re there!

Just realize that things could have been a lot worse. So try to be grateful for what you have and shift your perspective.

2. Express your emotions

Acknowledge, understand, accept and express all your emotions, whether good or bad. Studies have found that ignoring or suppressing your emotions can lead to depression and other mental health issues.

One 2019 study showed that “expressing one’s true emotions and the feeling is crucial to physical health, mental health, and general well-being, while a reliance on concealment gives rise to a barrier to good health.” When you hide or bottle your emotions up, it eventually leads to an inappropriate outburst of emotions

Learning to develop emotional stability starts with expressing your feelings. Neuroscientist Nicole Gravagna explains “Humans require regular emotional hygiene, and if you haven’t been doing that kind of thing, then you are probably backed up emotionally. Emotional hygiene is a practice of allowing yourself to feel all the way to the bottom of whatever emotion is present for you.

How To Develop Emotional Stability: 5 Empowering Steps

It means you respect yourself and your emotions. It means you value your negative emotions as much as your positive emotions. It means you have the inner strength to face your emotions instead of running away hiding from them. Genefe Navilon writes “You need to feel emotional pain, pay attention to it, as well as address the psychological wounds it creates. Otherwise, they have no hope of healing.

Read How to Stop Feeling Anxious, Depressed and Emotionally Overwhelmed

3. Check your expectations

If you wish to develop emotional stability, then expect things to go wrong at the last moment. Life is an adventure. There are lots of risks and dangers, but it can also be highly enjoyable and rewarding. If you expect your life to be smooth, then you’re going to be disappointed. Genefe Navilon explains “Emotionally stable people appear calm in crazy situations because they’re not shocked that they’re happening. They didn’t anticipate it, but they know there’s a possibility they could happen.

Think of life more as a roller coaster, than a walk in the park. The more mentally prepared you are for negative experiences, the less emotionally reactive and more emotionally stable you will be.

Stephen Guise writes “Are you expecting a smooth, linear, predictable life of goodness? Well, it won’t ever happen to anyone. The next time something bad happens to you, think of it as a challenge instead of a huge problem. Be ready for challenges, and they won’t catch you off guard.” 

You don’t need to be a pessimist and expect unexpected challenges and disappointments to crop up every single moment of your life. You simply need to be aware that life can go haywire at any moment. Those who expect that life will throw you difficulties and disappointments are the ones who are the strongest and most resilient out of all of us,” adds Genefe.

Read 6 Ways To Build Emotional Resilience and become Unfuckwithable

4. Create an action plan

When life seems bleak, it is likely you will experience an emotional turmoil and lack willpower, energy and motivation. This is why it is crucial that you have an action plan to help you develop emotional stability. Figure out what you can do to get out of the situation you’re in. When you have a clear intention, you will feel a rush of energy inside you, which will motivate you to take the necessary action.

How To Develop Emotional Stability: 5 Empowering Steps

Emotionally stable individuals know exactly what they need to do to get out of the dump so that it doesn’t cripple them for too long, says Genefe Navilon. She adds “What you should do is to create micro-plans: a checklist of things that can get you moving.” Make plans that enable you to accomplish small daily tasks that you wouldn’t be able to complete otherwise. It can be anything from taking a shower to sending an email. As you progress through your checklist, you will start getting more things done.

Pages: 1 2 3

Theo Harrison

Hey there! I am just someone trying to find my way through life. I am a reader, writer, traveler, fighter, philosopher, artist and all around nice guy. I am outdoor person but heavily into technology, science, psychology, spiritualism, Buddhism, martial arts and horror films. I believe in positive action more than positive thinking.View Author posts