Here are 5 ways to develop emotional stability and live a happier, better and more resilient life.
1. Shift your perspective
Whenever anything bad happens in our life, we immediately have a strong negative reaction to it. Negative experiences often lead to negative emotional responses which are much stronger than it needs to be. As most of us don’t expect the worst to happen to us at any given moment, we tend to react strongly which clouds our judgment and decision making abilities. However, when you change your perspective and look at things in a different way, you will realize that challenges are often opportunities in disguise.
“We all have tunnel-vision – we only see what we want to see. But you’ll be surprised how looking at things differently can help you assess negative life situations better,”writes author Genefe Navilon.
Due to negative bias, humans are tricked into looking at the negative aspects more than the positive outcomes of a situation.The fact is, there is always an upside to every adversity you face. But it ultimately it depends on how you look at an experience. Bestselling author Stephen Guise explains “I think by default we tend to pick the worst one because negative events bias our mind to negative thoughts about those events. But if we consider other, more positive perspectives, we can reverse this negativity cycle. Look for the positives in negative situations – they’re there!”
Just realize that things could have been a lot worse. So try to be grateful for what you have and shift your perspective.
2. Express your emotions
Acknowledge, understand, accept and express all your emotions, whether good or bad. Studies have found that ignoring or suppressing your emotions can lead to depression and other mental health issues. One 2019 study showed that “expressing one’s true emotions and the feeling is crucial to physical health, mental health, and general well being, while a reliance on concealment gives rise to a barrier to good health.” When you hide or bottle your emotions up, it eventually leads to inappropriate outburst of emotions
Learning to develop emotional stability starts with expressing your feelings. Neuroscientist Nicole Gravagna explains “Humans require regular emotional hygiene, and if you haven’t been doing that kind of thing, then you are probably backed up emotionally. Emotional hygiene is a practice of allowing yourself to feel all the way to the bottom of whatever emotion is present for you.”
It means you respect yourself and your emotions. It means you value your negative emotions as much as your positive emotions. It means you have the inner strength to face your emotions instead of running away hiding from them. Genefe Navilon writes “You need to feel emotional pain, pay attention to it, as well as address the psychological wounds it creates. Otherwise, they have no hope of healing.”
3. Check your expectations
If you wish to develop emotional stability, then expect things to go wrong at the last moment. Life is an adventure. There are lots of risks and dangers, but it can also be highly enjoyable and rewarding. If you expect your life to be smooth, then you’re going to be disappointed. Genefe Navilon explains “Emotionally stable people appear calm in crazy situations because they’re not shocked that they’re happening. They didn’t anticipate it, but they know there’s a possibility they could happen.”
Think of life more as a roller coaster, than a walk in the park. The more mentally prepared you are for negative experiences, the less emotionally reactive and more emotionally stable you will be. Stephen Guise writes “Are you expecting a smooth, linear, predictable life of goodness? Well, it won’t ever happen to anyone. The next time something bad happens to you, think of it as a challenge instead of a huge problem. Be ready for challenges, and they won’t catch you off guard.”