2. Frequent arguments.
Nitpicking leads to arguments, bickering, and disagreements, when they start to increase in frequency, pay attention, clearly something is amiss.
3. Your partner walks on eggshells.
Depression in relationships can look like fear, sometimes fear of disrupting or upsetting you or the other person.
4. Sex life plummets.
One of the symptoms of depression is a decrease in libido. Sex is one of the ways that many couples find their way back to each other, the absence of a healthy sex life will alienate the couple from each other even further.
5. Communication suffers.
When there is a greater frequency in arguments and nitpicking, that indicates that there is a block of some sort in your communication. You are not speaking the same language and not on the same page.
6. You question whether or not the relationship will survive.
Depression is varying degrees of hopelessness, naturally, that would translate into a feeling around your relationship. This doesn’t have to mean that it will or won’t survive.
7. No coupled social life.
You go out less frequently together, you may feel that you have less in common and things that you once enjoyed together are no longer the case.
8. You don’t laugh anymore.
When you and your partner have a hard time enjoying each other and enjoying each other’s company.
9. Everything feels heavy and serious.
There is a lack of levity and being able to roll with the ups and downs, an essential coping skill to manage the stresses of everyday life.
10. Erratic blowups.
It can get ugly, and it could feel like it comes out of nowhere.
11. The feeling of pervasive loneliness in the relationship.
When depression hits hard, there is a feeling of alienation and isolation in the relationship, even sitting or lying next to each other.
12. Dependence on the relationship.
When suffering from depression, there is a survival element present, maybe the feeling that you can’t make it alone or without your partner. This might turn into a clinging on for dear life.
13. You do more things separately.
When struggling with depression, you have low energy and a lackluster feeling for life, this is the withdrawal. You or your partner may cope by doing more of their own thing, separately.
14. Increasing withdrawal from each other and people in your life.
You talk less, connect less and feel off on the side of your partner and family.
15. Intense fear of losing the relationship.
When this happens you fight and try to hold on and sometimes exhibit controlling behavior that stems from insecurity and fear.
5 Things You Can Do To Save Your Relationship
I like this image above because it represents, in my mind, exactly what depression does to a couple. It gets in there and is that unwanted third party that stands between you and your partner. However, as I mentioned, there is a lot to be hopeful about.
First off, you are reading this article and that means that you want to learn and understand what is happening for you or your partner. Secondly, you are looking into getting help, again reading this article is an example of that, which can make a tremendous difference.
1. Get treatment for you, your partner, or your relationship.
Getting the right treatment for depression is not just going to be essential for you or your partner but it could also be what saves the relationship.
Speak to the counselors, doctors, and professional support in your community. This could be at work, through human resources or an employee assistance program, a community health clinic, or your primary care physician. It might even include support for you as a couple, whether that be couples therapy or in a support group.