Denial Of Bad Behavior: What You Can Do

Denial Of Bad Behavior

Fear of shame causes needless anxiety. It’s not a good reason to delay, because we can overcome shame.  If we’re in denial because of guilt, we can forgive ourselves and make amends to others. This builds self-esteem.

  • Become more mindful through meditating and journaling.
  • When you have a knee-jerk reaction to opposing views, take a breath. You don’t have to agree but listen to alternative opinions and interpretations of facts. Look at all the facts.
  • Challenge your underlying assumptions. Where do your beliefs come from? Are they helpful? Might reasonable people disagree?
  • Are you having wishful thinking about a problem when the facts prove otherwise?
  • Do you excuse, rationalize, or minimize a problem or conceal it from others? (Take the quiz in Codependency for Dummies.)
  • Don’t bury problems, and assume no one notices. Instead, be willing to initiate difficult conversations about uncomfortable subjects.
  • Take constructive action to reduce worry and stress. 
  • Don’t procrastinate. Talk to a professional about your concerns.

©Darlene Lancer 2018


Written by Darlene Lancer JD, MFT
Republished with permission.

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