Dear Empaths: 4 Types of Narcissists You May Be Attracting

 March 24, 2016

Dear Empaths: 4 Types of Narcissists You May Be Attracting

Invulnerable Narcissists (IN’s)

These people reflect the traditional image of the narcissist: that of a highly self-confident person, cold and unempathetic person. IN’s, unlike VN’s, are thick-skinned and shamelessly seek for power, glory, recognition and pleasure. IN’s often suffer from god complexes, believing themselves to be far superior to everyone else – and they have a pathological need to make that known.

Both types share similar traits such as using others to fuel their narcissistic delusions, blaming and criticizing, lack of empathy, unfaithfulness and the need for power.




Both Vulnerable and Invulnerable Narcissistic personality types can be split down into the following (unofficial) subtypes. Be aware that many of these subtypes can overlap with each other:


The Amorous Narcissist

Amorous Narcissists measure their self-worth and grandiosity by how many sexual conquests they have under their belt. This type of person is known for using his/her charm to ensnare others with flattery and gifts, but then quickly disposing of them once they become “boring” and when they have met the narcissists needs (often sexual or image/status orientated). Amorous Narcissists are the ultimate relationship con artists, “gold diggers” and heart-breakers. At first glance they appear highly attractive, alluring and amiable, but underneath they are only out to please and satiate their own needs and desires.


The Compensatory Narcissist

Driven to compensate for past traumas, Compensatory Narcissists love creating larger-than-life illusions of themselves and their achievements. In order to regain power and control over their lives, this type of narcissist usually hunts out emotionally vulnerable people who will serve as the audience to their fabricated stage acts. In reality, this type of narcissist is extremely sensitive to criticism and will frequently look out for negative self-directed cues from others. Emotional abuse and manipulation is a common method of control used by this type.


The Elitist Narcissist

This breed of person does anything to climb to the “top,” win and completely dominate others. Elitist narcissists are convinced that they are better than everyone else often due to their achievements or backgrounds (or simply the fact that they were born that way) and thus deserve special treatment. Their sense of entitlement bleeds into every area of life, from work to the family environment. Harboring a severely inflated self-image, Elitist narcissists are skilled self-promoters, braggers and one-uppers. They have a cut-throat need to be the “best” and prove themselves to be intellectually superior all the time and at all costs.


The Malignant Narcissist

The behavior of malignant narcissists often overlaps with that of psychopaths and those with antisocial personality disorder. Malignant narcissists often have no regard or interest in moral vs. immoral behavior, and don’t feel remorse for their actions. This subgroup is characterized by an arrogant and inflated sense of self-worth that delights in “outsmarting” others. This type of narcissist can often be found in prisons, gangs and drug rehabilitation centers, although many manage to run afoul with the law.


Now that you have read through the different “flavors” of narcissism you might be thinking, “what next?”

The most powerful way to regain your personal power as an empath in the face of narcissism is learning how to respect your needs, desires and boundaries. Often this involves severing contact with such people. I recommend reading this article for further direction.

Finally, I KNOW that there are so many empaths out there currently struggling to catch a breath of air in the large murky ocean of narcissism saturating their lives. If you are one of these people, I hope that this article can be a starting place to help heal your life. You’re also invited to unload your experiences in the comments area (rants and emotional catharsis encouraged).

On the other hand, if you are an empath that has successfully learned to deal with narcissists, please take some time to share what you’ve discovered below. You never know … you comment could help to salvage another’s life.


Written by Aletheia  Luna
This article was originally published on

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Dear Empaths 4 Types of Narcissists You May Be Attracting

49 comments on “Dear Empaths: 4 Types of Narcissists You May Be Attracting

  1. i dont a few people here are saying or implying that narcissists can change …..if they really did change, then perhaps they were never even narcissists to begin with..

    i think these people dont understand what narcissists really are.. not every selfish and manipulative person is a narcissist

    how can someone who doesnt even want to change… can change????
    to bring about a change in yourself you need to ‘feel’ something…..guilt or dissatisfaction with yourself or something at least… only then you would want to change yourself….. but narcissists are incapable of feelings and emotions…… how is it even possible for them to change???????

  2. I was raised by a narcissist , and believe me they don’t change. They will make you believe they did. But once they used and abused you, the mask comes out . It ‘s all about them, you are only important as long as you play a role in their scheme.With no remorse, total refusal to admit guilt or mistakes, I am sorry to admit , but the only real solution is to stay away from them or that poison will kill you.

  3. I am now 64 years of age and can finally say that after spending almost 50 years fighting with, running away from and moving almost 200 miles away from my family member narcissist, I have realised that I need not have done any of the above. All I needed to do was simply cut her out of my life. At the time though all I could think of was killing myself. Killing her. And hiding from her toxic blatant lies ….manipulation of any real truth within her web and the damage I could see happening to children in her care.

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