11. Enjoy the holidays
“It is Christmas in the heart that puts Christmas in the air.” – W. T. Ellis
When you set realistic expectations and let go of high hopes, you can finally start enjoying the little joyful moments that come with Christmas. Despite what Hollywood might show us, in real life, the holidays are rarely like uplifting movies. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t experience a little Christmas cheer even if you have to deal with toxic family during holidays.
Look for moments that spread the joy of Christmas and create moments that your entire family can enjoy and cherish. Although there is no such thing as a perfect Christmas, miracles can happen anytime.
Spread the Christmas cheer
The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other. – Bill Vaughan
Understand that it’s absolutely okay to not have a perfect family or a perfect Christmas. It’s okay to argue and it’s okay if your parents criticize you. Families tend to be like that. And the fact remains that not everyone has the opportunity to spend Christmas with their family. You’re among the lucky ones despite what you may feel right now.
You should also realize that these family holidays will not be here forever. Neither will your parents or family members. And once you reach that point, you will cherish the Christmas memories you make now for the rest of your life.
So try to keep your negative feelings aside and enjoy the moment. This is a magical time for your whole family to get together and rebuild broken connections. To share a day together. To make some new memories.
“The Christmas spirit – love – changes hearts and lives.” – Pat Boone
Focus on shared connections instead of looking for happiness. Understand your family, their troubles, problems, fears, loves, dreams, hopes, and expectations from you. Give them the love you seek from them and expect nothing in return, except for some memories.
And maybe a little peace on Earth.
After all, it’s the most wonderful time of the year.
Wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy 2021.