Self Harm: What It Is And How To Deal With It

Self Harm: What It Is And How To Deal With It

Tips to deal with self-harm:

Self-harm is controllable and can be treated if the underlying causes of self-harm can be determined. Not every strategy works for everyone, but most people will find a way that works for them.

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What parents of teenagers who self-harm should do:

Parents of children who self-harm gets highly alarmed when they witness their children harming themselves. Conterio says,”they are at a loss of how to approach their child.” It is suggested that parents should provide a space for open and transparent communication with the kids.

Provide them the time to open up by themselves when they feel they are ready to face you. Make sure they know that you are concerned about them and not frustrated. Let them know you are aware of it.

Be direct with your child, adds Lader. “Don’t act out of anger or let yourself become hysterical – ‘I’m going to watch you every second, you can’t go anywhere.’ Be direct, express concern. Say, ‘We’re going to get help for you.'”

When the child is ready enough to slightly open up to their parents, their parents can take a further step to expose them to available psychotherapies but keeping in mind whether or not the child is ready to accept changes.

“The ultimate lynch pin is – the child has to decide they’re not going to do this anymore,” Rosen tells WebMD. “Any ultimatum, bribery, or putting them in a hospital is not going to do it. They need a good support system. They need treatment for underlying disorders like depression. They need to learn better coping mechanisms.”

Kids simply do not outgrow self harm. Rosen adds. “Kids who develop this behavior have fewer resources for dealing with stress, fewer coping mechanisms. As they develop better ways of coping, as they get better at self-monitoring, it’s easier to eventually give up this behavior. But it’s much more complicated than something they will outgrow.”

What you can do to help someone else to stop self-harming:

Developing a positive relationship with the self-injurious person is very crucial to stopping self-harm. 

When a non-judgemental and warm environment is provided to the person who self-harm, you are actually helping the person to disclose and open up about incidents associated with the act of self harm. 

Ask the person open-ended questions which will give them the opportunity to discuss about the underlying feelings. 

You can ask them questions like:

“Have you ever discussed this with anyone close to you?”

“Would you like to share something with me?”

“Should I get some help for you?”

“Would you like me to come with you?”

If the person is reluctant to get help, you could say:

  • “Do you have someone trustworthy you can go to?”
  • “If it helps, you can talk to me about it.”

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All these might sound disturbing but self-harm indicates serious underlying mental health issues that demands your immediate attention. There are lots of support services and treatment procedures available when you feel ready to seek help.

No two people have the same back story for harming oneself.

If you are someone trying to help out another person who is self-injurious, be compassionate, try understanding them, have patience and validate their pain.


Self Harm: What It Is And How To Deal With It

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