Selfish people think they’re okay. No need to change or improve. They have been raised to believe that they are entitled to getting what they want, full stop. To some degree, modern American culture cultivates a certain amount of self-involvement.
Some of the things that make us a great nation can backfire on the personal level. Our focus on achievement, individuality, and personal success leaves the idea of “other” out of the equation a little. (To tell the difference between a selfish person and a narcissist, check out my blog Too Good to be True: Some Facts about Narcissistic Personality Disorder.)
If you fear you are involved with someone who is essentially selfish, it’s not too late. If you recognize the signs, chances are he or she won’t change. There are plenty of thoughtful, kind, loving people in this world who can be supportive and interested while also staying true to themselves – the two are not mutually exclusive.
Find someone who is not blinded by self-absorption – someone who can see your beautiful self and invite you in.
Written by Betty Russell, BCC
Originally appeared in Relationship Elements
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