Do Not Abandon Yourself!
Despite how it might seem or feel, no one can ever hurt you as deeply as you hurt yourself. In fact, abandoning oneself is immeasurably worse than being rejected by the whole world.
In Hindsight, the trauma that I experienced in Ms. Horvath’s class was not the result of her judgment or rejection or that of my classmates, but, rather, due to the fact that I judged and rejected myself. You see, by doing so, I abandoned myself.
In fact, whenever we subject ourselves to self-suppression and self-judgment, we inadvertently abandon our Real Selves — and this is the core cause of all emotional wounds. Therefore, before you can express your Real Self, you have to know that you are not going to abandon yourself at the first sign of failure.
Regardless of circumstances or consequences, you must make the commitment to never impose judgment or shame upon yourself, and you must also release unrealistic ideals of perfection. Furthermore, do your very best to cultivate self-love and acceptance, and, most of all, support yourself as you’d want others to support you – and, especially, throughout periods of doubt and uncertainty.
Either you can play it safe and risk a lifetime of regret, or you can choose self-expression and be free!
The Starring Role Of Your Life!
Although we can never know the outcome of our choices, be assured that there’s always a hidden cost for playing it safe. By missing an opportunity, you’ve gained nothing in return, and who knows what you might have lost?
In fact, if you don’t choose yourself for the starring role of your life, no one else will!
Of all the billions of people who’ve ever lived or will ever live, there’s only one you, and, therefore, your only job is to be you. After all, if you’re not going to be you, then who will?
Yes, it can be scary to expose yourself to the world, and, yes, others will likely judge you, but, those same people will judge you anyway. Since there is no way to avoid judgment, why not live the life you want to live? In fact, anything less is too big a price to pay, and, believe it or not, what others think about you is none of your business anyway!
So, whether you reap the seeds of courage or end up licking your own wounds, never regret trying, and whether you emerge with battle scars or victory, remember that your life is no less extraordinary!
With grace & gratitude,
Written By: Nanice Ellis
Originally Appeared On: Wake Up World