Leaving may be easier said than done as there is a history that you share with this person and you obviously have strong feelings for your abuser as you have tolerated their toxic behavior longer than you should. Due to the cycle of abuse, it can be even more challenging as you may question your decision repeatedly. However, you need to remind yourself that you do not deserve to be with a narcissist nor do you need their toxic love. But as your decision to leave can aggravate the situation leading to domestic violence, plan for your safety beforehand.
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Inform a loved one that you are leaving your abuser
- Gather important documents and keep them safe
- Create funds for emergency
- Change all passwords for social media accounts and devices
- Note down all emergency contact numbers
- Block your abuser so that they can’t contact, manipulate or threaten you
- Have a safe refuge where you can stay for the first few nights
13. Seek therapy
Emotional abuse can often lead to a number of psychiatric conditions, such as posttraumatic stress disorder, anxiety disorders and even depression. According to a 2015 study, “Childhood abuse is associated with a wide range of negative outcomes, including increased risk for development of emotion dysregulation and psychopathology such as posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD).” It can also cause a number emotional & mental health issues like –
- Social withdrawal and loneliness
- Difficult memories and flashbacks
- Mood fluctuations
- Difficulty concentrating
- Low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness & helplessness
- Excessive guilt and shame
- Fear and phobias
Consulting a professional therapist can help you overcome abuse and associated mental illnesses so that you can live a healthier and happier life. They can help you detach from the trauma, find inner strength and help you develop coping strategies to rebuild your new life free from stress and tension.
Healing from emotional abuse
I can personally tell you that being abused by someone you love can be one of the most devastating experiences in life. It not only makes you feel betrayed and breaks your trust, it shows you that your love has no value to your abuser. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have any value. The only thing that matters is how much you value yourself. Following the strategies mentioned above will enable you to heal and move on from an abusive relationship.
Yes, the scars of abuse will be deep and the pain will stay for a long time. But with patience, determination, self-love, and the support of friends and family, you can heal those nasty scars and become stronger than you have ever been. You deserve love and happiness… and you will find it.