Only by teaching our children how to love themselves, love their unique talents and their flaws, we can help them become happy, successful, independent and confident individuals as they grow up.
When your child learns that they are free to be whoever they want to be without hurting or disappointing his or her parents, they can become loving and compassionate adults. Adults who accept themselves, their complex emotions and flaws as well as the flaws of others.
How to be a Conscious Parent
“Children aren’t ours to possess or own in any way. When we know this in the depths of our soul, we tailor our raising of them to their needs, rather than molding them to fit our needs.” – Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent
Conscious parenting is about allowing your children to grow up in a way that will allow them to understand who they are and live their lives in a confident and independent way.
Here are a few ways that can help you start practicing conscious parenting:
- Focus on building a meaningful relationship with your child based on empathy, trust, and unconditional love, instead of controlling them
- Understand that your child is not a possession for you to own. Your role as a parent is to help them grow up, find themselves and reach their full potential.
- Make sure you listen to your children and understand them instead of telling them what to do.
- Instead of punishing your child for his/her mistake, practice forgiveness.
- Practice mindfulness and be more mentally, physically and spiritually aware in your interactions with your child.
- Heal yourself and solve your own emotional issues so that you can connect with yourself better. Your insecurities should not affect your child.
- Be respectful and courteous when you talk to your child. Communicate with them like you would with an adult.
- Do not implement any strict rules for your child to follow. Rules are important, but so is realizing when to let it go.
- Make sure your child is raised in an encouraging, positive and safe environment that allows them to learn and explore. Negativity can lead to lifelong phobias and inhibitions.
- Teach your child through your own actions and behaviors. As they will learn from you, behave the way you want them to behave.
- Follow a daily routine for regular activities to teach your child what, when and how they need to do things on a daily basis.
- Be empathetic in your reactions and responses to your child. It is best to pause for a moment, reflect on how you feel and then react in a way that’s best for the child.
- Unconditional love will allow your child to feel safe, protected, secure and confident. So love and accept them as they are.
- Focus on building and nurturing a loving relationship with your children and your spouse.
Unconditional love starts with unconditional acceptance
“If you are a parent, open doors to unknown directions to the child so he can explore. Don’t make him afraid of the unknown,give him support.” – Osho
Loving and accepting our children unconditionally starts with showing unconditional love to ourselves and accepting who we truly are, not only as parents but as our most authentic selves. When we allow ourselves to be the way we want to be, we empower our children to be confident and free.
Conscious parenting is not really one of the complicated parenting styles that you need to learn. It is a simple philosophy that comes naturally when you start practicing awareness and heal, love and nurture our inner child. The more we love and accept ourselves, the better we will be able to heal and improve our connection with our children.