3. They never tell you, you look pretty – because they think you’re unattractive
For some people, words of appreciation are an important way of feeling loved and sexy. For others, it’s more about acts of service, surprising the other, or physical connection, hugging and kissing and holding you at night.
Just because your partner doesn’t tell you how they feel about your appearance, it doesn’t have to mean they find you unattractive or unsexy.
See what happens if you change your frame of mind to focusing on what your partner is doing to validate your looks.
- Maybe they’re constantly touching you or giving you quick massages.
- Perhaps they’re always the first one to suggest having a bath together?
- Or maybe they’re really good at buying you clothes for your birthday?
Flip the script and assume the best about your partner; it will probably make you feel better and you’ll avoid the same old fights.
4. Assuming the best
How do you communicate in a relationship without fighting? Well, fighting in relationships is unavoidable – however, fighting about the same old things day in and day out, isn’t.
Changing the way you think about your partner’s actions or inaction might just be all you need to stop the incessant conflicts.
Ask yourself how you know what you think you know? And see if assuming good intent instead of bad intent makes a difference.
The object of changing perspective isn’t to eliminate important talks or to never have an argument at all.
It’s about making a conscious effort to see all the positives, not just the negatives. Because when you do, you’ll find you won’t have to ask the question “how do you communicate in a relationship without fighting” – it won’t be a question at all.
Originally published on Therapy by Leigh.