Cohabitation 101: 3 Vital Skills For Moving In Together

cohabitation vital skills for moving together

6. Are you combining finances? If so, how and why? How do you plan on making financial decisions—groceries, utilities, mortgage/rent, etc.?

7. If you have feedback for each other, what is the best way to bring it up? How do you tend to react to receiving criticism/feedback?

8. How will you share responsibility for housework? If your division of labor feels imbalanced, how will you talk about it?

9. How do you want to handle changes in your sexual relationship? What can each of you do to make it easier to talk about sex with curiosity and compassion?

10. What are the short and long-term goals of this relationship? What is your vision as a couple? What are your values? What do you stand for? What matters most to you?

Related: 15 Little Things Strong and Healthy Couples Consistently Do Together

Taking the time to explore these topics will help you navigate this new stage of your life together and create opportunities for even deeper levels of intimacy—and joy—in your partnership.


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Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD

Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, a popular resource on Instagram. the creator and leader of the Intimate Relationships 101 E-course, the host of the Reimagining Love podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents. You can visit her online at Author posts