Closure Without Contact

 June 27, 2016

Closure Without Contact

However, I knew that I could not stop him from lying to and manipulating and hurting others. I knew I could not convince his new target of the truth. And I knew I could not make him feel remorse for what he did to me. What I could do was focus on my own healing and my own life. When I made the choice to do that, one day at a time, I gradually felt happier and more peaceful. I still wage a daily struggle to relinquish the desire to control what I cannot control, but, thankfully, it is not nearly as difficult as it used to be.

You will never receive traditional “closure” from the psychopath. But the light you can discover within your own soul is so much better!


Trust in your own unique truth

Perhaps the most significant epiphany during my recovery came when I finally was able to believe in myself and trust in my own truth. Psychopaths are eerily similar in so many ways, and yet many of the details of my encounter seemed so different from other survivors’ stories. As I struggled to make sense out of what had happened to me, I heard so many opinions from so many people about how to heal, about who I was, about who I should be, about what to believe. I questioned myself, as I always had, and as long as my intense self-doubt remained, my pain lingered. Ironically, it was only after reading survivor story after survivor story, so similar to mine and yet so different, that the fog began to lift. Only after reading so many other stories, and only after seeing my own worth, was I able to see the truth in my experience. I still have doubts, about so many things, but now I put them in perspective and listen first to the voice within my heart.

You have a similar voice in your own heart. Listen to it.

And please hold on to this truth: you can find closure without contact, and you can find peace on the other side of the nightmare. Read and learn about psychopathy, move through the pain, take back your power, and most of all, strive daily to believe in and love yourself, your most authentic self. You are your own best guide.

For more recovery support, read The Survivor’s Quest, available through Amazon: 

The Survivor’s Quest: Recovery After Encountering Evil
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Closure Without Contact

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6 comments on “Closure Without Contact

  1. This is a absolutely me! It sounds like the journal I wrote for myself. The quest for the truth, the self doubt, and deviating pain. The way that person just moved on, with little care for anyone or anything, and began the abuse right after with someone new. 7 mos later I am JUST beginning to be myself, yet understand I have a long journey ahead of me. Thank you so much for sharing this article. The timing was perfect for me in my healing process. Matt

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