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How Adverse Childhood Experiences Affect Emotional Intelligence

Childhood Experiences Affect Emotional Intelligence

3. Other Tools

Fortunately, there are other tools that help us cope with difficult emotions. For example, confiding emotional pain in writing has been repeatedly shown to lessen distress and improve health. Rather than holding emotional pain inside (where it can eat one up), one expresses the pain in writing, typically for 15-30 minutes a day for four days. The writer expresses the facts, emotions, thoughts images, and bodily sensations related to upsetting events.

Bringing all aspects of an upsetting recent event (feelings, bodily sensations, thoughts, and images) and then tapping certain parts of the body or following eye movements are strategies derived from trauma treatments that can usually safely be tried by individuals to rapidly reduce emotional distress.


This is a sampling of skills that can very effectively change the way we respond to difficult emotions. Skills like these, when mastered through practice, are generally helpful for dealing with difficult emotions in the present. If the pain seems overwhelming, and the skills are not helping, that could signal a need to seek the help of a mental health professional specializing in treating traumatic wounds.

Schiraldi, G. R. (2021). The Adverse Childhood Experiences Recovery Workbook. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.

Practice these skills to improve emotional intelligence when you face emotional pain or distress. Let us know what your thoughts are in the comments below.

Written by: Glenn R. Schiraldi Ph.D.
Originally appeared on: Psychology Today
Republished with permission
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Glenn Schiraldi

Glenn R. Schiraldi, PhD, has served on the stress management faculties at The Pentagon, the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation, and the University of Maryland, where he received the Outstanding Teacher Award in addition to other teaching/service awards. His fourteen books on stress-related topics have been translated into seventeen languages, and include The Adverse Childhood Experiences Recovery Workbook, The Self-Esteem Workbook. The Resilience Workbook, and The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook. The founder of Resilience Training International, he has trained laypersons, emergency responders, and clinicians around the world on the diverse aspects of stress, trauma, and resilience.View Author posts